Are you happy?

ToHellWithIt

Hard to tell with social media as people will only show what they want you to see, so how happy are you with your life and how things have worked out so far? What would you change if you could? How would you rate things out of 10?

Me, I'm a solid 2 or 3.

I've a great education, great family, great partner etc. But I just absolutely loathe myself. I hate my lack of ambition, I hate my social awkwardness that has alienated me to the point of zero social life, I hate the fact that I overthink everything and I hate the fact that I can't stop feeling nostalgic for my childhood when things were simpler and far more enjoyable. I just haven't coped with growing up I guess, and that's an embarrassing failure. I really don't want to live anymore, and while I wouldn't be at all afraid to kill myself, I just don't want to upset my family or fiancé. Id jump off the balcony right now if it wasn't for them. So I'm stuck hating existing for the next however many decades. Yay.

Over to you.

longshanks

You need to tell someone you're close to, or a doctor exactly what you've just told us.

Oops!

I'd go back to 2000 and do things alot differently if i could....

DEFTLEFTHAND

Not really. But I made my bed . The only thing i don't regret is my son. I love him more than life it self.

Irish_rat

OP you definitely need to change something in your life if that's the way you feel

Everyone has problems that's a fact of life, some less so than others.

OP... You really need to learn how to reframe your perceptions of things. Highly recommend that you start reading up on NLP. Regular Visualisation practice is a wonderful technique to help you too. You might also consider looking at some self-hypnosis. Take a look at Richard Bandler on Youtube for some of his seminars. There are a number of his stories/examples that might give you some inspiration to look at your life differently. (He has an example about a control board visualisation for the mind & emotions that works wonders for me) . Also, learn to say "**** it" and let go of the negative emotions that aren't helping you. [If you want help or advice, pm me]

I'm mostly content with my life. I rise up to happiness rarely, but in a way, I'm more comfortable with being content. I reserve happiness for the truly special parts of my life. I'm slightly frustrated with my income, but then I've fairly recently made a major shift in my lifestyle, but other than that, It's all good. I never get stressed, or depressed with my life anymore.

Irish_rat

Irish_rat wrote: »

Everyone has problems that's a fact of life, some less so than others.

I consider that to be a limiting belief. Reality is based on your perception of your world, and you can change your perception. Money issues, family problems, etc can all be reframed to have a different meaning. Rather than a difficulty, change it to a worthwhile challenge that you know you can accomplish. Each success no matter how small can be used as fuel to build momentum towards solving your other challenges.

The problem is that modern society tries to put us into little boxes of worry, stress, and such. You really don't have to accept that. The mind is a truly fun tool once you start seeking to take control, rather than simply allowing things to happen.

gimli2112

yup very happy
if it's any consolation op a stranger on the internet feels bad for you
you should talk to your partner about this
take care

Never wrestle with pigs

You need a good hobby to enjoy your down time. What do you like? Are you living in the city? Would a slower lifestyle in the country suit you better?

Never wrestle with pigs

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The mind is a truly fun tool once you start seeking to take control, rather than simply allowing things to happen.

One of the best lines I've seen in a long time.

JupiterKid

No, I’m not very happy but I try not to slip too much into a dark hole of negativity because that just puts me in a worse place. But I do believe in hope and having hope and self-belief. Without that there is nothing.

I do believe that a lot - an awful lot - of posters on Internet forums are very unhappy, damaged or angry individuals. In my 15 years on internet fora that has been something definite I’ve noticed. But I’m not criticizing as I’m pretty much one myself.

ToddyDoody

I'm moderate. I think I have been considerably worse. I suppose the worst parts are when I feel everyone is 'at' me and there's nothing I can do about it. Then that balances out whereby I can go home and be in solitude / peace.

This is somewhat better than when it was the other way, feeling isolated and trying to feel included in some way. I defiantly feel included now but people seem to have a lot of anger and all they need is an outlet for it and too often that outlet seems to be me. I'm simply a bit quirky, any further issues with me require a bit of self-examination.

lazybones32

Happy? Yeah.
I think people need to redefine what happiness is - i don't jump out of bed every morning, esctatic at the prospect of a new day but dammit it's great to be alive.

I would be lacking in areas that others may see as being essential for happiness but make do with what i have.

branie2

I'm very happy

Capt'n Midnight

Statistically speaking six out of seven dwarfs aren't happy.

Buford T. Justice XIX

Mod Note: Hi folks, I'm moving this to Personal Issues as I think it's a more appropriate forum for the thread. Please note that the new forum rules now apply to this thread.

Regards,

Buford T. Justice

Tokyo

longshanks wrote: »

You need to tell someone you're close to, or a doctor exactly what you've just told us.

Hi ToHellWithIt,

Please know that you do not have to deal with this on your own, and the above poster's advice is really the only solid advice we can give so somebody going through a situation like yours - speak to somebody.

We encourage people experiencing difficulties to talk to someone they trust and, if appropriate, to go to their GP. If you need help urgently and outside of GP hours, please go to your nearest A&E department.

Here at Boards.ie our moderators are not trained to support people experiencing difficulties. There are other organisations better positioned to provide specialised support. These organisations are listed below. We hope that you will follow these up so that you can get the help and support you need.

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I am going to close this thread, but please reach out to the above organisations - they will be able to provide the advice that you need.

~Mike