Ex being maniplutive

chaz44

Hey there, just to set my mind at ease and to make sure I'm not going mad I thought I'd ask your opinions! My ex from over 2 years ago started the last year eating randomly in the restaurant where I work, I personally found it hard to deal with as I just am a big believer in out of sight out of mind. I found it confusing and a bit strange to be honest as its not like we're the best of friends or anything. I asked him politely would he stop and he said he didn't care what I thought and he'd continue to come there. Lovely guy 😱 eventually he said he'd text when he would be coming in! But afterwards he texted me pretending it was for another girl, like blatantly.... saying " oh sorry that was meant for my girlfriend and not you " my question is do you think he was playing me all along?

chaz44

I should clarify the restaurant I work in isn't big so chances are I'd have to serve him and he didn't really eat there before. I think he was making an excuse to see me and when I said I didn't want to see him he retaliated

Augme

Honestly, who cares? Just block his number and only interact with him in a professional manner when he comes into the restaurant.

Ursus Horribilis

It looks like he's trying to get a reaction from you. In hindsight you were wrong to get involved in all that texting business etc. because it just proved to him that he can get in under your skin. You can't stop him coming to the restaurant - it looks like the more you don't want him there the more he'll come. But you can block his number and ignore him outside of your workplace. I strongly suggest you do that.

chaz44

I ended up in counseling after the relationship ended. He said he'd text and see if I'm there and if I am he won't come in. But he still had an attitude about it. My gut told me he was playing games and I had to ask him to stop coming in.

Big Bag of Chips

Didn't you post this before, and got loads of advice? He's playing games with you and getting a kick out of bothering you. The more you show it bothers you, the more of a kick he gets out of it.

He is playing games with you now. And you are playing right into his hands.

Just forget him. Block his number, you don't need contact with him. Let him come in, ask someone else to serve him. There's always enough staff on that you can avoid dealing with him. This is only an issue if you let it be one.

Ursus Horribilis

Well, apart from changing jobs I don't see what else you can do. He's not a nice person if he's into this sort of game playing.

chaz44

It is game playing though I'm not going crazy?

Big Bag of Chips

Of course it's game playing. Why would you think it's not? Didn't people tell you that previously?

So now that you know, what are you going to do?

Ursus Horribilis

I can't help but think you're looking for drama here. I thought this issue sounded familiar from before. You have two choices here.
Either you block him on your phone, interact with him as little as possible and act as if you don't give a monkey's.
Or you engage in the drama he (and you?) want.

chaz44

It is game playing though I'm not going crazy?

retro:electro

chaz44 wrote: »

It is game playing though I'm not going crazy?

Do you enjoy it or something? Block his number and ignore him. Anyone else would have done that after incident number one.

Xterminator

Hi Op

good advice above.

just one point. You said

Ex being maniplutive

but he cannot manipulate you unless you let him. You are granting him this power over you. Stop. Make sure he gets no reaction at all.

Steviesol

If you are friendly with your boss, tell them the situation. Get him barred.

Teyla Emmagan

Steviesol wrote:

If you are friendly with your boss, tell them the situation. Get him barred.

No, he'd love that. Just block him and get on with your life OP.

chaz44

Teyla Emmagan wrote: »

No, he'd love that. Just block him and get on with your life OP.

Why do you think he'd love that?

Splishsplash

I'm sorry now chaz but I'm guessing your the man in question going into the restaurant after the woman. Judging by your previous posts (everyone can see everything you have ever posted on here) you were the man who lost the woman and asking why she had moved on so fast from you .. seriously stop going to the restaurant you will freak her out.

never_mind

Splishsplash wrote: »

I'm sorry now chaz but I'm guessing your the man in question going into the restaurant after the woman. Judging by your previous posts (everyone can see everything you have ever posted on here) you were the man who lost the woman and asking why she had moved on so fast from you .. seriously stop going to the restaurant you will freak her out.

Could the OP have swapped pronouns for anonymity?

Skibunny77

Don't allow him to text to check if you are there or not. Cut ties. Be professional if he chooses to eat in restaurant, avoid serving him when you can and outside of that, have zero contact with him.

bucketybuck

chaz44 wrote: »

My ex from over 2 years ago started the last year eating randomly in the restaurant where I work,

This is ridiculous, your post history clearly shows that you are not being honest and that you are the guy in this situation. How can this be allowed in this forum?

Big Bag of Chips

bucketybuck wrote: »

How can this be allowed in this forum?

Mod Note:
Because posters like you complain on thread instead of reporting posts. If you think something needs to be brought to the attention of the moderators, then use the report post feature.

chaz44, thread locked until you contact a moderator to explain your latest threads here. Starting anymore threads in PI without clarifying the above will result in a permaban from the forum.