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  • 01-10-2017 6:03pm
    #1
    lufties
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,507 ✭✭✭


    So I'm not sure if this is in the right forum, but anyway I just needed some advice. A long term male friend of mine keeps flaking on me with regard meeting up and activities. Its like he'll meet up if there is no other options and keeps me on the back burner or cancels last minute giving a lame excuse. 

    Anyway, I dont have too many friends, but I just wondered if this sounds like poor behaviour or if its normal in a friendship.
    cheers


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  • #2
    chaz44
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 66 ✭✭chaz44


    Get yourself out there and make some new friends yourself. Join a club or gym ! I'm pretty flaky myself with people but it's not that I'm putting people on the back burner so don't think he is.


  • #3
    lufties
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,507 ✭✭✭lufties


    chaz44 wrote: »
    Get yourself out there and make some new friends yourself. Join a club or gym ! I'm pretty flaky myself with people but it's not that I'm putting people on the back burner so don't think he is.
    Yeah I should do but work unsocial hours so it can be difficult, I think the odd bit of flakiness is ok, but repeatedly is unacceptable.


  • #4
    lufties
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,507 ✭✭✭lufties


    chaz44 wrote: »
    Get yourself out there and make some new friends yourself. Join a club or gym ! I'm pretty flaky myself with people but it's not that I'm putting people on the back burner so don't think he is.
    Yeah I should do but work unsocial hours so it can be difficult, I think the odd bit of flakiness is ok, but repeatedly is unacceptable.


  • #5
    WIZWEB
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 523 ✭✭✭WIZWEB


    I'd a 'mate' of almost two decades doing stuff like that. Usually not heard from him until he wanted something or was stuck for someone to hang out with. Always cancelling last minute with bs excuses. I'd helped source him very affordable new accommodation recently when he was almost homeless. Ironically it was half way to/from my four hour daily work commute. Never once offered me to stay on his couch. Three months ago he got new household appliances and furniture paid for him by the taxpayer. Bought himself a €900 sitting and bedroom carpet! Demanded I connect his washing machine and cooker. Informed him it would be a week or so later due to work pressures and that he would have to collect tools from mine as I was busing my commute and couldn't store tools in job. I'd even given him a two ring electric hob to last him a few days. I'd survived six months with it in a flat! Next day he pays €70 for ten minute job installing cooker cable. None of it he would do himself due to years of learned helplessness from mental health services and laziness. I called up later in that week. Never heard the end of it how I cost him €70! That day he couldn't self install Virgin Internet either. I even rang for him and spoke for ages. I also invited him out for my sisters birthday then to get him out of his flat. That was dismissed as an inconvenience and I was seriously bad mouthed for not being the TV fixer miracle worker. His place needed cable rewiring according to Virgin. Not heard from him since and never want to hear from him again. OP my example is extreme and I don't Have a multitude of friends either but am so much happier for our now permanent distance.


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