First date in 4 years

undertaker fan 88

As the title suggests I've not really dated in a long time I was engaged and that broke up and have yet to date since it finished but I've been in contact with a girl who I get on very well with. We have been texting back and forth and are meeting up tomorrow night after I finish work and I'm nervous as hell. Any tips on getting over my nerves and having a good date?

FightingIrish

undertaker fan 88 wrote:

As the title suggests I've not really dated in a long time I was engaged and that broke up and have yet to date since it finished but I've been in contact with a girl who I get on very well with. We have been texting back and forth and are meeting up tomorrow night after I finish work and I'm nervous as hell. Any tips on getting over my nerves and having a good date?

DO not mention the ex
DO not get drunk

Pay for the lady
Relax and enjoy

This lady will definitely be as nervous as you are, be yourself and have fun!

undertaker fan 88

Oh I won't be mentioning the ex I have never brought her up and don't plan on it! Yes no drinks for this date as I want to make a good impression as we get on so well

Dr Crayfish

All I can say isn't don't get too excited about it. I'm assuming this is someone from an app or something so It'll probably lead to nothing, as most of them do! Just relax and try to enjoy yourself regardless of the outcome.

gifted

Just relax and enjoy it for what it is....your meeting up with someone...treat her with respect like you would with anyone else...ye hit it off then great stuff...ye don't then no harm done either, at least you are going out.

GuessWhoEh

Please keep us updated! 😊

Dial Hard

FightingIrish wrote: »

Pay for the lady

Not necessary, imo. I always prefer to go dutch on a first date.

undertaker fan 88 wrote: »

Yes no drinks for this date as I want to make a good impression as we get on so well

Nothing wrong with a couple of drinks as ice-breakers (coffee is for meetings, as a friend of mine says!) but just don't get drunk, as has already been advised.

Icepick

Re paying, if it's just a couple of drinks and it goes well, you can pay. Just observe if she tries to split the bill.
Also depends on how you got in contact with her initially. I would be hesitant to pay the bill for an online date, especially if it doesn't go perfectly (hard to tell sometimes).
Also, don't get too excited and try to figure out what each of you is expecting.

BetsyEllen

If I meet someone for a first date I always tell them in advance of meeting that we're going halves and I don't want any further mention of them paying!
That way there is no awkwardness when the bill comes, you know in advance who is paying what

When I've never met someone before it feels wrong for them to pay for me.
If I don't like them and don't want to see them again, I'd feel much better about saying so after I've paid my own way for the evening.

If the evening goes well then we can start treating each other on future occasions.

Augme

If she doesn't offer to pay for one of the rounds, cut and run.

eeguy

Don't go for dinner, just do drinks.
Get some food before you head out.

Meet somewhere quiet enough where you're guaranteed to get a seat.

Have no more than 3. Don't get drunk.

Remember, you're just going for a chat to suss each other out. No pressure. Nothing is expected of you and you should expect nothing of her. Keep things casual and light. It alright to feel nervous but remember she's a normal person just like you. Dont pin any hopes or dreams on her yet.

Don't talk about the ex. Try not to talk too much about work.

undertaker fan 88

Cheers for all the advice guys everything went brilliant date 2 coming soon cheers from a not as nervous guy anymore

Icepick

Did you kiss? Very important to get intimate/physical before she cools off.

undertaker fan 88

We did indeed

Steviesol

undertaker fan 88 wrote: »

We did indeed

Nice one !