Holding the door open for people

Creative83

I hate it when people don't say thanks for it :mad: To be fair, most would... but there are a lot of people out there with no concept of basic manners. I mean how hard is it to say "Thank you" or "Thanks very much"... cretins!

Edit: Those who don't thank my post can kiss my a** also :P

Kermit.de.frog

I always say thanks. Have a thanks OP - and start worrying about more serious things.

philstar

i also hate it when people say nothing and just walk past......i usually say sarcy "you're welcome"

Creative83

Kermit.de.frog wrote: »

I always say thanks. Have a thanks OP - and start worrying about more serious things.

What if I have nothing more serious to worry about... like right now :eek:

Thank you for the Thanks... manners you see

gloobag

I hate it when people hold the door for me. It's all about them, they don't really want to help. If they did, the thanks they're obviously expecting for their act of heroism would be irrelevant.

The worst is when someone holds a door and you're about 10 miles away. You're then expected to run to the door, because y'know, there's a time limit on their kindness.

VinLieger

Is an awkward nod, with a vague smile while avoiding eye contact okay?

DrumSteve

VinLieger wrote: »

Is an awkward nod, with a vague smile while avoiding eye contact okay?

Being Irish that’s acceptable behavior for pretty much any social and private occasion

VinLieger

DrumSteve wrote: »

Being Irish that’s acceptable behavior for pretty much any social and private occasion

I was worried for a second, *nods awkwardly*

OldGoat

gloobag wrote: »

The worst is when someone holds a door and you're about 10 miles away. You're then expected to run to the door, because y'know, there's a time limit on their kindness.

I do this all the time, just for ****s and giggles. On a very long wait I'll look at my watch just to add extra awkwardness.
Yes, I am that juvenile.

Zubeneschamali

I generally just give them a nervous fart as I pass.

big b

gloobag wrote: »

I hate it when people hold the door for me. It's all about them, they don't really want to help. If they did, the thanks they're obviously expecting for their act of heroism would be irrelevant.

The worst is when someone holds a door and you're about 10 miles away. You're then expected to run to the door, because y'know, there's a time limit on their kindness.

Utter, utter bollox

If someone was raised to be polite enough to hold open a door & them doing so makes you feel all bitter & twisted, that says a lot more about you than it does them.

Drumpot

I sometimes get annoyed when people don’t awknowledge it but on those occasions I have to ask myself “why am I holding the door open?”. For them or for me to feel good about myself?

I feel better when I do an intentionally nice thing without any expectation of awknowledgement for it.

People have their own lives to live. It’s easy to default to the “ignorant prick” stance. Yes, there are awfully ignorant people out there but I try to believe most people are just Not paying attention or something on their mind. A person could be having a stressful day for some reason.

On rare occasions when I do something nice for people and get no nod or even snotty recognition (almost belligerent “I didn’t ask you for this” look) I try to think “god I hope that persons day goes better” or something on those lines. It’s nicer and more satisfying then “the f**$*n ignorant w*nker”.

Creative83

There are some people where I work from South Asia who never say thanks for pretty much anything... everyone just puts it down to their culture :eek: What, they don't have manners where they are from or something? :rolleyes:

lazybones32

Tbf op, it is your choice to keep it open for them...are you doing it because you're polite or because you want gratitude? Do you need your actions to be recognised and validated or can you do something good for goodness sake?

Creative83

lazybones32 wrote: »

Tbf op, it is your choice to keep it open for them...are you doing it because you're polite or because you want gratitude? Do you need your actions to be recognised and validated or can you do something good for goodness sake?

I mostly do it being courteous & polite... when people acknowledge it with a "Thanks" or whatever I usually would reply with a "Your welcome" or something... so yes I do it mostly because it's common courtesy and polite.

valoren

It's etiquette.

If going through a door you check if someone is behind you and if so you hold the door open. It needn't be you holding it for them to walk through with an "After you...". You hold the door open so they don't have to push it open. It's a gesture of simple courtesy particularly in places with heavy doors.

And the mannerly thing to do is acknowledge it in any way at all, be it a thank you, a nod, a smile or whatever so long as it's acknowledged.

Personally, I make a lame attempt to quicken my pace to convey that I don't want to delay them with a polite 'Cheers'.
If anyone doesn't obey the etiquette then they are either culturally inept, a see you next tuesday or a combination of both.

BobMc

few years back at a creche my daughter went to this bitch used to slam the door in my face all the time, it was one of those buzzer doors to get in and she'd be waiting on the buzzer to open the door you'd get out of your car literllay 6 ft from the door and as you approached she'd just let it close behind her. I of course would wait and hold it open for her

_Roz_

valoren wrote: »

It's etiquette.
Personally, I make a lame attempt to quicken my pace to convey that I don't want to delay them with a polite 'Cheers'.

They're delaying themselves by holding the door for you.

I walk at a normal pace and say thank you. If it takes a while for me to get to the door, then they were far enough ahead that they shouldn't have held the door.

branie2

I always make sure to say thanks.

archer22

mini_Sapphire wrote: »

There are some people where I work from South East Asia who never say thanks for pretty much anything... everyone just puts it down to their culture :eek: What, they don't have manners where they are from or something? :rolleyes:

South East Asian's are probably the most polite people on earth bar none

Boom_Bap

I always ask for a fist bump as well.
I'm going to go to either top gun high 5's or chest bumps next.

Creative83

archer22 wrote: »

South East Asian's are probably the most polite people on earth bar none

Sorry, not South East Asia... I meant South Asia... India.

Omackeral

philstar wrote: »

i also hate it when people say nothing and just walk past......i usually say sarcy "you're welcome"

kerry cow

You can know a persons personality with the type of manner they display and shows the type of up bring they have got
You don't scrap it off the ground , it comes from good example from home .
That where I get it and am proud of been mannerly .it costs little to be kind .slow down a little when you can and it can be quite rewarding to be nice .

Creative83

kerry cow wrote: »

You can know a persons personality with the type of manner they display and shows the type of up bring they have got
You don't scrap it off the ground , it comes from good example from home .
That where I get it and am proud of been mannerly .it costs little to be kind .slow down a little when you can and it can be quite rewarding to be nice .

So true

FAILSAFE 00

valoren wrote: »

It's etiquette.

...

Is there an app I can download :P

Creative83

FAILSAFE 00 wrote: »

Is there an app I can download :P

Sure there is

I hate when people hold the door open for me unless I'm right behind them. I'll never increase my pace if I'm too far away. They need to learn that I'm well capable of opening a door on my own and its completely unneeded.

Creative83

Boom_Bap wrote: »

I always ask for a fist bump as well.
I'm going to go to either top gun high 5's or chest bumps next.

Do you really do that? I mean really? Really? Come on don't bull**** me

_Kaiser_

Never mind doors... I hate it when people don't wave or flash their hazard lights when you let them out of a junction/parking space etc - ignorant tools!

This is especially true in Cork where almost no-one uses indicators anyway. Driving down there is not good for my blood pressure.

bee06

_Kaiser_ wrote: »

Never mind doors... I hate it when people don't wave or flash their hazard lights when you let them out of a junction/parking space etc - ignorant tools!

This is especially true in Cork where almost no-one uses indicators anyway. Driving down there is not good for my blood pressure.

I hate when people let me out of a junction when there is no reason to. If they just proceeded on their way normally I'd be able to get out anyway. They get no thanks from me. It's the equivilant of holding the door open from someone who has to rush then because they are so far away.

freshpopcorn

I always hold the door open for somebody when they are behind me and always say thanks if somebody does it for me.
I always find people with the attitude oh I can open the door by myself are best to be avoided.

me_irl

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cg5MJyEHKGo

greenttc

_Kaiser_ wrote: »

Never mind doors... I hate it when people don't wave or flash their hazard lights when you let them out of a junction/parking space etc - ignorant tools!

This is especially true in Cork where almost no-one uses indicators anyway. Driving down there is not good for my blood pressure.

I see other people are disagreeing with this, i on the other hand would thank this post a hundred times if i could. I especially hate when yu are driving round housing estates with cars parked either side of a road and you let people by even though half of the stretch of road is your right of way and the person doesnt even glance at you, as the other person says, it makes my blood boil. Wish i had some kind of device that made a big sarcastic "your welcome" sign pop up for those individuals. They are so rude!!!

We obviously have some of those people on this thread, not saying thanks because you want to disourage such behaviour, that is just a shocking attitude!!!

Your Face

If you don't open doors for people or dont say thanks to people that do - you're a common peasant.

freshpopcorn

Once I was at a wedding and the majority the guests all nearly arrived at the venue at the same time. I held the door for one person and then every started walking in and I felt like I couldn't leave go of the door.

bee06

greenttc wrote: »

I see other people are disagreeing with this, i on the other hand would thank this post a hundred times if i could. I especially hate when yu are driving round housing estates with cars parked either side of a road and you let people by even though half of the stretch of road is your right of way and the person doesnt even glance at you, as the other person says, it makes my blood boil. Wish i had some kind of device that made a big sarcastic "your welcome" sign pop up for those individuals. They are so rude!!!

We obviously have some of those people on this thread, not saying thanks because you want to disourage such behaviour, that is just a shocking attitude!!!

I assume you are talking about me? I'm specifically talking about at junctions where there is no reason for someone to randomly stop to let me out. Half the time they just flash their lights or wave and slow down and I'm wondering are they actually letting me out or are they going to crash into me if I drive out like that scam you heard about.

...And Justice

freshpopcorn wrote: »

Once I was at a wedding and the majority the guests all nearly arrived at the venue at the same time. I held the door for one person and then every started walking in and I felt like I couldn't leave go of the door.

Yeah that happened to me, so the last wedding I was at I just started píssing and slamming the door whiltst screaming "THANK YOU!!!!!" Well I woke up the next morning and realised that I had dreamt the whole thing.......people are cúnts.

Wanderer2010

I have a rule, ill do it once for people (especially in work), if I don't get a thanks, that's it, ill leave the door close in their face. Costs nothing to say a quick thank you. Fcuk this crap about people having worries on their mind, if you haven't enough basic manners to say thanks then to hell with you.

greenttc

bee06 wrote: »

I assume you are talking about me? I'm specifically talking about at junctions where there is no reason for someone to randomly stop to let me out. Half the time they just flash their lights or wave and slow down and I'm wondering are they actually letting me out or are they going to crash into me if I drive out like that scam you heard about.

I suppose thats a fair enough point about those scammers, thats dreadful carry on and does nothing for my fight for thanks! However i am always grateful for those people who flash and slow down, it can be hard to get out at some junctions!