a little advice needed

LegacyUser

Hi,

I'm hoping for a bit of constructive advice. I'm with my girlfriend about 8 months or so love her to bit and her also. We have the odd disagreement but nothing major and never fight. The only thing is she says she finds my stubbornness quite difficult to deal with sometimes. I feel the last couple of weeks she's gone into herself a bit with me since we got back from hols really. She's away for 2 weeks now so maybe the break might help but I really don't want this to come between us. I can be little childish at times but probably not as much as she makes out. I can recognise it in myself sometimes but other times not til after the event. Does anyone have any advice how to become less stubborn. I don't expect miracles or for it to be fixed over night but hopefully a few pointers
Thanks

Jezabelle28

Perhaps see it from her point of view? A relationship is about give and take...about you both, perhaps talk to her and find out what your stubborn "point" are? (Like are you most stubborn about where you want to get a takeaway from? or what to do at night?)...get some pointers off her and then try your best to think before you speak next time? (hope that doesn't come out in a horrible way, just trying to help!)

AsianIrish

Try to be humble and down to earth for a while. Do meditation every day for 15 minutes and look at your own actions for the day how you could have done otherwise to make it better for the people you interacted with. Its not easy to change your personality but you can work on it for sure. Speaking less and listening more can help too.

meforever

Hi OP....Interesting situation. Please do not take offence as text format often does not give a feeling of true empathy. My intention is pure based on what I have researched and believe to be true & from personal experience. We must never think we are animals. The only thing that sets us apart from a horse, pig or any other animal for that matter is the 1.5kg between our ears. Mankind has been forever at odds with this. This organ comprises of a network of billions of neurons that allows us to be in the NOW and create OUR OWN futures. Without going esoterical here it is believed that the brain allows us to have this spirituality dimension. When the cells in you body are in harmony with each other (in a sort of peaceful existance) then everything else takes on it true form. You can command anything of your mind and it has to come about. In your case the fact that you are male came down to the formation of one distinct set of chromosones. "Treat your girlfriend as an equal and all will be fine". Research, read and learn daily from the archives of mankind so you do not have to believe/depend a stranger like me. Hope this help you my Global friend

Wesser

You said yourself ' i can be childish at times'. Time to grow up so and rectify this.

LegacyUser

How sure are you that you're actually stubborn and your behaviour is the problem? Any examples?