Where to meet decent guys

imme

Another thread title could be 'where are all the decent guys'

Where do they be, are they all taken
Why is so hard to meet decent guys

Apply within!

Seriously though, does anyone have hints/tips etc

Ten of Swords

I dunno, I never sought out relationships and was happily single for a long time.

Then I met my boyfriend in a lift!

mr.anonymous

Where are you looking?

imme

mr.anonymous wrote: »

Where are you looking?

Not wishing to sound smart but whatever I've been trying hasn't proved fruitful hence the need for the thread

Goodshape

Have a look on meetup.com for LGBT groups in your area. It's a good way to meet people with similar interests, and outside of club or hookup scene.

baby and crumble

imme wrote: »

Not wishing to sound smart but whatever I've been trying hasn't proved fruitful hence the need for the thread

Fair enough but without knowing what you've tried we might all just list things you've already done, like internet dating, clubs, pubs, activities, LGBT events, college, work etc.

Annasopra

imme wrote: »

Not wishing to sound smart but whatever I've been trying hasn't proved fruitful hence the need for the thread

Yeah but if you have exclusively tried clubs and then we advise clubs its useless advice.

swaner

Try so called "day game". I have some really nice friends who would be very good for any women but they don't go out, they are in some rythim: house, work, gym, so suppose to meet some of them that is only work, or gym

breatheme

Hey imme!
I think you also just have to keep yourself open. Meetup (which was mentioned before) is a very good website, whether you go to the LGBT Meetups or others, you get to meet loads of new people. Maybe the decent guys you are looking for are not around, but their friends might be. Just have some fun, try new things and meet new people and eventually you'll meet someone.
You could also try OKCupid, I guess. Guys there seem to be more decent and LTR oriented.

wakka12

swaner wrote: »

Try so called "day game". I have some really nice friends who would be very good for any women but they don't go out, they are in some rythim: house, work, gym, so suppose to meet some of them that is only work, or gym

Its hard for gay people to try 'day game' as its generally not obvious what somebodys sexuality is

adam88

I feel your pain. I'm from the country and the only show in town is grindr. Needless to say not a lot of lads on that looking for relationships lol

imme

adam88 wrote: »

I feel your pain. I'm from the country and the only show in town is grindr. Needless to say not a lot of lads on that looking for relationships lol

I have tried it, it's definitely not for me.
That much I know.
It took me a while to figure it out however.

In relation to online Vs pubs, clubs etc, I never realised how many curious, bi etc guys there are out there.
There's enough there for an entire other thread!!

Ash885

*applies*

No but seriously, I think every LGBT person feels this if and when friends get matched up and you're either a 3rd wheel or in my case a 7th. I think the trick is just expanding the social circle - Irish gays is such a small knit community it can seem almost futile...so I'm hoping (at least for me anyway) by focusing on other friend-building things, a mate may just arrive.

Either that or trust my Mam when she says eventually she'll knit me a fella!

Ten of Swords

Ash885 wrote: »

Either that or trust my Mam when she says eventually she'll knit me a fella!

Aww, I LOLd

That's cute

liam7831

Ten of Swords wrote:

I dunno, I never sought out relationships and was happily single for a long time.

Ten of Swords wrote:

Then I met my boyfriend in a lift!

Bet it has its ups and downs

adam88

imme wrote: »

I have tried it, it's definitely not for me.
That much I know.
It took me a while to figure it out however.

In relation to online Vs pubs, clubs etc, I never realised how many curious, bi etc guys there are out there.
There's enough there for an entire other thread!!

Some of my best nights have been at house parties with "straight lads"

In my experience the problem isn't a lack of decent guys: most guys out there are generally decent people. The problem is that two perfectly decent guy's won't necessarily have any mutual chemistry. Pretty much every guy I've had a crush on and asked out has only liked me "as a friend", which is fairly shattering to self-confidence. And on the very rare occasion someone shows interest in me on a night out, they tend not to be "my type": they could well be very nice people interested in more than a one-nighter but if there's no mutual attraction then it's not gonna be worth pursuing. It sucks but c'est la vie.