Legal guardianship

Mnc0814

Looking for advice for a father who was granted legal guardianship through the courts some years ago but has never been consulted in any desicions regarding the child. These included the child making holy communion which the father was unaware of until after, moving address and schools as well as repeating the previous school year.
From my understanding all these big decisions in a child's life are supposed to be joint decisions. What advice would you all have?

Sleeper12

Mnc0814 wrote:

Looking for advice for a father who was granted legal guardianship through the courts some years ago but has never been consulted in any desicions regarding the child. These included the child making holy communion which the father was unaware of until after, moving address and schools as well as repeating the previous school year. From my understanding all these big decisions in a child's life are supposed to be joint decisions. What advice would you all have?

I assume that the father knew that the child was baptized? Well what follows is a communion and you can tell him that there will be a confirmation in a few years. My point is why would he have to be consulted on this issue. Christianity is usually a lifelong membership so a communion shouldn't be a surprise. Now if his argument is that he wasn't invited then I'd agree with him.

He doesn't seem to know much about the child. Does he not see the child each week? Does he not have the child at weekends? I'm amazed that so much seems to have gone on that he doesn't know about. Surely the child would be excited and tell him about a new school?

Del2005

Mnc0814 wrote: »

Looking for advice for a father who was granted legal guardianship through the courts some years ago but has never been consulted in any desicions regarding the child. These included the child making holy communion which the father was unaware of until after, moving address and schools as well as repeating the previous school year.
From my understanding all these big decisions in a child's life are supposed to be joint decisions. What advice would you all have?

You need proper legal advice so talk to your solicitor.

Mnc0814

Yes the child was baptised twice, once in the Catholic Church and once in the church of Ireland. Parents are of different religions and the agreement was a discussion was to be had about what religion the child would be when they were a little older. Obviously that never happened and its disgraceful the father didnt know anything of it until it was all over. child doesn't seem to know this stuff either until after the decisions have been made and had often said things then back tracked saying "I'm not allowed to tell you" so is obviously being told to keep these things a secret. It isnt uncommon either if the child meets the father while out and about the mother wont let the child speak to him. It's wrong and a very messed up situation for a child.

Sleeper12 wrote: »

I assume that the father knew that the child was baptized? Well what follows is a communion and you can tell him that there will be a confirmation in a few years. My point is why would he have to be consulted on this issue. Christianity is usually a lifelong membership so a communion shouldn't be a surprise. Now if his argument is that he wasn't invited then I'd agree with him.

He doesn't seem to know much about the child. Does he not see the child each week? Does he not have the child at weekends? I'm amazed that so much seems to have gone on that he doesn't know about. Surely the child would be excited and tell him about a new school?

nuac

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lifeandtimes

He needs to speak to solicitor for further help and of course go to the courts regarding access and his legal guardianship rights. He can make an application at his local district court office

boardsuser1

I hold joint guardianship with the mother of my oldest child.

I secured it in the family law court.

Until recently, the child's mother withheld the details of the child's gp for the last 6 years.

A blunder on her side lead to me discovering it.
Other things it has permitted me to do is access the child's school reports, discuss the child's education with the teacher and principal.

I was excluded from the school selection process.

There is other stuff I could mention but I don't know will that result in the thread being closed or my comment getting the <snip>