One Night Stand

LegacyUser

Hi Guys,

So I was out on Saturday night and met a really cool guy. It was towards the end of the night. Myself and a few friends were heading back to mine and he came with us. We sat up listening to music and drinking. My friends left and we ended up having s*x. It was really great.
I've had a few one night stands before and usually I'm dying for them to leave but when we woke up, we lay in bed for hours kissing, talking, showing each other photos on our phones etc.
He asked for my number before he left and messaged me when he got home.
He's a really cool guy and we got along great, have similar interests and all that jazz.
We said we'd meet up this week for a movie but now that the sheen has worn off and it's a cold Monday afternoon, I'm starting to feel flooded with doubt.
Do you think anything could actually materialize here? I really like him but would also be happy with a friends with benefits situation (I think!!). Ideally though, I'd like more.
I knows this is a bit silly but now I'm doubting whether I'll even here from him despite him telling me how hot I am etc. Words are just words.
Not sure what I'm asking even but just wanted to see people's thoughts and similar experiences!
Thanks guys

zoobizoo

Ya never know...

I've been the guy in that situation and if it's someone I liked, ended up with and and spent a morning with, I'd bang them off a text to meet up.

The fact that he texted you that day I would say is a positive.

Hope it works out

Airyfairy12

Stop over thinking it youre running way ahead of yourself.
For a start you dont know his thoughts and feelings on this so worrying about a future relationship or fwb situation is pointless at this stage, you dont even know eachother, you could end up really disliking him or vise versa after a few dates if dates even happen.
If you do meet again just chill out and go with the flow, get to know him before planning a future. If nothing materialises then atleast you didnt get your hopes up. Theres no harm in watching a movie together.

AnneFrank

Airyfairy12 wrote: »

Stop over thinking it youre running way ahead of yourself.
For a start you dont know his thoughts and feelings on this so worrying about a future relationship or fwb situation is pointless at this stage, you dont even know eachother, you could end up really disliking him or vise versa after a few dates if dates even happen.
If you do meet again just chill out and go with the flow, get to know him before planning a future. If nothing materialises then atleast you didnt get your hopes up. Theres no harm in watching a movie together.

A porn movie?

retro:electro

The absolute worst thing you can do is over think or place any kind of stock in what happened. It may go somewhere, it may not. You might meet him again and decide he's not for you and vice versa. Just take it handy and see how it goes. It could be something and it could be nothing. At least you had a night of fun!

Airyfairy12

AnneFrank wrote: »

A porn movie?

What??

Bambi985

None of his actions are indicative of him liking you or not liking you (which I know is about as useful as a chocolate teapot!:)). They're just standard one-night-stand behaviour, from the compliments to the morning pillow talk to taking your number and all that stuff. That's kinda the done thing IME.

So I think you need to just sit back and see how things pan out. Give it a few days and maybe drop him a text Thurs or Fri to see what his weekend plans are. If he's interested you'll hear from him sooner or later anyway.

LegacyUser

Bambi985 wrote: »

None of his actions are indicative of him liking you or not liking you (which I know is about as useful as a chocolate teapot!:)). They're just standard one-night-stand behaviour, from the compliments to the morning pillow talk to taking your number and all that stuff. That's kinda the done thing IME.

So I think you need to just sit back and see how things pan out. Give it a few days and maybe drop him a text Thurs or Fri to see what his weekend plans are. If he's interested you'll hear from him sooner or later anyway.

OP here. Thanks for the replies and advice so far. I think yesterday I was still a bit fragile from the weekend so over thinking everything! He messaged me yesterday afternoon and we plan on meeting later in the week. If that doesn't end up happening, I'll be fine but I hope that it does.
Sometimes I wonder why people take your number or say they'll call and then don't but I guess there's a variety of reasons and I'm guilty of doing it myself!
For now, all i can do is be glad he actually got in touch, take that as a good sign and hope for the best without getting my hopes up too high!

Bambi985

Stringsattachedplease wrote: »

OP here. Thanks for the replies and advice so far. I think yesterday I was still a bit fragile from the weekend so over thinking everything! He messaged me yesterday afternoon and we plan on meeting later in the week. If that doesn't end up happening, I'll be fine but I hope that it does.
Sometimes I wonder why people take your number or say they'll call and then don't but I guess there's a variety of reasons and I'm guilty of doing it myself!
For now, all i can do is be glad he actually got in touch, take that as a good sign and hope for the best without getting my hopes up too high!

Sounds positive

Ah I never really read much into the taking-the-number jig tbh, we Irish will do anything to get out of a socially awkward situation and "sure give me your number there and I'll drop you a text" is lot more comfortable than "right. I'll be off then so" *shuffles out the door* to a vast majority of people! Kinda like that "we must meet for a coffee!" thing when you meet someone random that you have no intention of ever meeting for a coffee

Best of luck with yer man

Dixie Chick

These are awful but great nerves you have. Sounds like he is keen as are you so enjoy the date

LegacyUser

Thanks a million for the advice guys. We've been messaging (instigated by him) so I'm happy and hopeful:)

Long may it last!