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Questioning my Sexuality

  • 28-08-2017 12:51am
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    So Im a female in my 20s. I recently went out to a night club, and tbh was pretty intoxicated. However while I was out, I kissed a girl. I have never kissed a girl before, I didnt even talk to her beforehand, I think I just kinda went for it. It didnt feel much different from kissing a guy-however I guess it just felt kind of safer...IDK how to describe it. I guess whenever I kiss guys they generally try to have me go home with them and its like a chore brushing them off, cause some are so insistant, and Ive actually never had any sexual experience anyways,its just not the greatest experience.

    I had never pictured myself as someone who would be interested in girls, and IDK if it was experimenting or not or if I am bi, or even gay? I know when some guys tried to hit on me later that night I turned them down by saying "I just found out I'm gay".... so now I have a pit in my stomach. I dont really know what to make of this. Its kinda bothering me. So now IDK what to make of it all.....


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
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    Hi there

    just speaking as a gay man here...

    From what i've seen throughout my life (and I'm 30 now - out since 17) is that sexuality is very much a spectrum of varying shades of colour and it's what makes us unique. I fall on the 95% gay side but I do have the very occasional attraction to women. What you have to think about is to objectively look at your sexuality and see if it's worth exploring. I don't know if you are in your early or late 20s (or if it matters) but it would be interesting to look at this in a 'fact-finding' mind-frame.

    Do you generally find women attractive? Have you ever considered dating a woman? Are you sexually attracted to men some or all of the time? Would you have sex with a woman if given the opportunity?

    I think you need to reflect on what happened - you say it felt more comfortable but was that because you feel threatened generally by men and women make you feel safer (but not necessarily attracted to them?). I think you have some thinking to do for sure.


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    Permabear
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