Advice about going to doctor about erectile dysfunction

question234

Hi lads Im a 24 years old man. I cant remember ever been able to get a full erection at least not since I was a young teenager. I can get an erection maybe 60% on my best day but thats only a few times a year usually a lot less. and I cannot maintain anything I get for a long time. This is beginning to bother me a lot now as Ive had a few bad experiences with it recently and the women that its happened to have told other people. Anyway I dont need any medical advice my question is this. I live at home and am unemployed. Ive no problem making an appointment and telling the doctor my problem but I dont want to have to talk to my ma or da about it but ive no money myself to pay the gp. I want to get this sorted so I will talk to my da but how would you recomend I talk to him? We dont talk about this sort of stuff in my family and hell be very uncomfortable with it. Could someone help me word how I would describe the problem in the best way? Sorry if this is a stupid question but too embarrased to ask anyone in real life so thought id come here.

hairyslug

When I was about 17, I was concerned about something, told my parents that it was a personal matter and I needed to talk to a doc. They questioned me slightly about it but let it go fairly quickly.
It may come down to the type of relationship you have with your parents. Chances are, it'll go one of 3 ways, your da feels awkward about the conversation, your da completely understands or he takes the piss, either or, you still get the same outcome and he'll give you the money.

Or, make up something that you need to see the doc about.

FishOnABike

Have you applied for / checked if you qualify for a medical card? If you are unemployed and receiving jobseekers allowance you should meet the qualifying criteria.

http://www.hse.ie/eng/services/list/1/schemes/mc/about/Amieligible/

"If your only income is a means tested Social Welfare Allowance, you will qualify for a Medical Card."

At 24 I don't think you would be considered financially dependent on your parents.

tigger123

First I'd suggest you contact the HSE and talk to them about your eligibility for a medical card or a GP card. Even though you're living at home you may still qualify. Their number is 1850 24 1850. You don't have to tell the person at the other end of the phone what you need to see a GP about, if you don't want to.

If that doesnt work, I am sure your Dad cares a lot about you, and wants you to be ok. Tell him you need to see a Doctor, but its about something personal that you'd rather not discuss with him in detail. By the sounds of things he won't press you about it tbh. If he does, be straight with him; you've a problem downstairs that you need to see a GP about.

Judging by the prevalence and success of Viagra and the associated drugs out there, I don't see why you should suffer in silence dude - get it sorted and start enjoying yourself!! :-)

adam88

Lot of young lads are suffering from this. Common denominator is porn and the ready access to it

never_mind

adam88 wrote: »

Lot of young lads are suffering from this. Common denominator is porn and the ready access to it

Doubt this is the issue for the OP but who knows.

Tell your Dad that you are having problems with your stomach or with your balance or something random if you need cash and want to avoid the awkward situation that comes with this issue. Your GP might want to run some blood tests but again it's easy to tell your dad that you need to go for a follow up. If you have some savings then going alone would be fine but do talk to your GP about getting a medical card.

Blacktie.

adam88 wrote:

Lot of young lads are suffering from this. Common denominator is porn and the ready access to it

Lol ok.

johnnyskeleton

question234 wrote: »

Ive no problem making an appointment and telling the doctor my problem but I dont want to have to talk to my ma or da about it but ive no money myself to pay the gp. I want to get this sorted so I will talk to my da but how would you recomend I talk to him? We dont talk about this sort of stuff in my family and hell be very uncomfortable with it. Could someone help me word how I would describe the problem in the best way? Sorry if this is a stupid question but too embarrased to ask anyone in real life so thought id come here.

Could you tell them you think you might have a kidney stone or uti or something? Might be an easier way of explaining to them that you have a problem in that region without them getting into specifics.

Tigger

adam88 wrote: »

Lot of young lads are suffering from this. Common denominator is porn and the ready access to it

are you a doctor ?

Gael23

Just say you don't feel well and need to see a doctor.

If you're not physically strong/active, you could be lacking in testosterone. I had similar issues with erectile dysfunction and found it was actually due to low levels of testosterone. Testosterone injections are possible, but exercise is a very simple option which many of us overlook or dismiss too easily.

adam88

Tigger wrote: »

are you a doctor ?

Nope just stating what's in a lot of research papers on the topic.

Wibbs

adam88 wrote: »

Nope just stating what's in a lot of research papers on the topic.

I'd reckon OK you definitely have a point A, that there's something to it alright. But there's a large part of me that thinks, yeah something to it, but as it makes good headlines and clickbait, maybe less that is made out?

If I were the OP? I'd be hotfooting it to my GP, looking for a consult with more of an expert in the area(endocrinologist ?) to figure out what was going on. And it is going to fixable OP.

Our willies are damned good indicators of our overall health. IMHO our willies should be put centre stage in any GP's breakdown of our general health. Willies can be indicators for general systemic issues like diabetes or hormonal balance, or mental health, or physical health, or vascular issues. For our penises to work as described all those systems must be in pretty good order. Some have even mused that the reason we lost the penis bone and have much larger willies than other great apes, willies that rely on our overall health, that this was positively selected for as a sign of reproductive health.

Wibbs

Wibbs wrote: »

I'd reckon OK you definitely have a point A, that there's something to it alright. But there's a large part of me that thinks, yeah something to it, but as it makes good headlines and clickbait, maybe less that is made out?

If I were the OP? I'd be hotfooting it to my GP, looking for a consult with more of an expert in the area(endocrinologist ?) to figure out what was going on. And it is going to fixable OP.

Our willies are damned good indicators of our overall health. IMHO our willies should be put centre stage in any GP's breakdown of our general health. Willies can be indicators for general systemic issues like diabetes or hormonal balance, or mental health, or physical health, or vascular issues. For our penises to work as described all those systems must be in pretty good order. Some have even mused that the reason we lost the penis bone and have much larger willies than other great apes, willies that rely on our overall health, that this was positively selected for as a sign of reproductive health.

The problem I've found with all of this research though is that they're all driving some kind of angle.

Let me put it this way. I had intermittent erectile dysfunction for just under a decade.

First when I went to doctors they hit me with a psychological reason. Apparently, I have trust issues and therefore this was somehow feeding into my physical problems. How? They couldn't tell me that but it seemed reasonable to them. Everyone seems to love talking about Freud. :rolleyes: Now, he was a nutjob.

Then I went to some other 'doctors'/specialists/consultants/etc and they suggested that my blood wasn't being 'pumped' fast enough through my body, and suggested Viagra and a variety of heart medicine to help that. However... I have a high metabolism, and essential tremor (which apparently affects me in other ways, that exist but they're not fully sure of all the ways and how they're connected).. but hey! take some viagra, and it will help clear the blockages. And put strain on my heart and heart canals. And increase the chances of internal bleeding. But that's a minor problem.. until some later research proved it to be so. Shame about the previous research which 'suggested' that it wouldn't cause internal tears...

I could go on to talk about third, fourth and fifth solutions but.. there's little point. The doctors themselves have no real clue as to why it happens... and even less realistic options to resolve the problems. Instead everything is a bit of try 'this' and try 'that'. Research is constantly contradicting previous papers, and in many cases, the research is 'quietly' financed by the drug companies that sell the 'medicine' which is approved due to 'intensive testing' but still brings out dangerous side-effects a decade later.

erectile dysfunction can be caused by just about anything... but from those I've spoken to in support groups, and those who got past it... the best answers are healthy balanced diet, little/no alcohol, no tobacco (cannabis is fine), regular exercise.... and regular sex.

The act of sex carries its own momentum.

Wibbs

Deleted User wrote: »

(cannabis is fine)

Maybe for some. There's few things more likely to take the lead out of my pencil as well as cannabis does.

Wibbs

Wibbs wrote: »

Maybe for some. There's few things more likely to take the lead out of my pencil as well as cannabis does.

Whereas it makes me horny as hell...

deandean

OP in my experience you will be much better off going to a male doctor, as opposed to a female doctor with this issue. Best of luck, hope you get sorted.

the_syco

adam88 wrote: »

Nope just stating what's in a lot of research papers on the topic.

I find the sites that make money out of erectile disinfection claim the above quite a lot.

Wibbs wrote: »

Maybe for some. There's few things more likely to take the lead out of my pencil as well as cannabis does.

Indica will generally do that, but sativa strains will have the opposite effect on me.

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OP; get a medical card, and then goto the doctor about this. In the meantime, more exercise (especially lifting weights) and looser underwear may help.