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Moving on-anyone felt like this?

  • 19-08-2017 9:44pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I know there is no time frame for getting over these things...

    Was seeing a guy on/off for last year. He was a head melter. And I was the one who got hurt.

    On the other side, really got on with him as a person.

    Am am fortunate I have some very good friends I can talk to....but it doesnt satisfy my...empty feeling of not being able to talk to him.

    Havent spoken to him in a month. Which is a good thing too. For healing. But the last few days have felt low/missing him.

    Life is changing and quite busy for me. And am moving forward in lots of ways. But felt I took a step back with feelings of missing him. I feel in one way, if I contact, am doing it for wrong reason (am not near ready to have a friendly relationship).

    Has anyone felt like this? I still think of him and...hold my breath. And the pain comes back.


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  • #2
    Starkystark
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 244 ✭✭Starkystark


    movingonup wrote: »
    <Snip> the post is just ^ there. No need to clog up the thread with duplicate text.

    Completely understand what you're going through, it's very hard. But I think you have already identified the positive things going on for you right now - try focus your energies on these. You say you have some good friends - spend more time with them.

    You seem really strong. It's only been a month - you're doing very well. Those times when you think of him will get easier and you will reach a point where it doesn't effect you and you'll be so grateful to have gotten away from him; especially if he was a head melteround.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Thanks for reply.

    Is it normal to feel a bit empty, even with friends?

    Am missing a guy who didnt treat me very well. I just dont understand how/why Id miss him.


  • #4
    Starkystark
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 244 ✭✭Starkystark


    movingonup wrote: »
    <Snip> the post is just ^ there. No need to clog up the thread with duplicate text.

    Of course it is, you say you got on well with him in your original post - maybe ask yourself what was it? Maybe these are things you're friends aren't providing - this could be as simple as the same sense of humour or something bigger like a confidence boost.

    I really stress you need more time - start exploring yourself and getting to know you.


  • #5
    Bambi985
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,274 ✭✭✭Bambi985


    Totally normal and human. Regardless of how wrong he was for you, he was still your partner for a period of time and all the feelings that go with that.

    Be proud of yourself for cutting contact and continue to white-knuckle it through these next few weeks. Stay strong and call a friend or family member when you get the urge to reach out to him. It's really hard to see the wood for the trees when you're feeling the way you do, but it gets easier with time and with distance. The fog lifts and you begin to appreciate yourself that bit more for staying away from someone that made life a lot more difficult for you. You move forward and the feelings begin to dissipate.


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