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Broken up but living together

  • 14-08-2017 10:40am
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    I recently broke up with my boyfriend whom I love dearly due to incompatibility reasons. Things that I realised we'd never get passed and would result in me being unhappy for the rest of my life if I stayed with him.

    We live in a big city and are tied into a lease which our landlord has allowed us to get out of but not before the end of September. Neither of us are from the city and due to distance to work etc, simply don't have anywhere to go until that date, so are still living together for the next six weeks.

    I am heartbroken and my ex is in pieces, drinking too much and not sleeping - and being in each others faces is undoubtedly making things ten times worse. I went to visit friends in another city at the weekend and he'll be abroad for a week from Wednesday - following week I'll be in Ireland etc. So we're trying to make it work. But I'm struggling to cope with so many emotions when we're both in the house - guilt at breaking up and causing him so much pain etc - that are causing me to try to comfort him, give him a hug, etc - which in turn is making things so difficult for the both of us. There's also texting, though i try to keep it to a minimum - but god this is just so hard.

    Does anyone have any advice or has been in a similar situation? What's killing me the most is just seeing him so broken and the instinct to take care of him but knowing it's wrong but feeling guilty for ignoring him too.


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  • #2
    ahnow
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    How much would it cost you to break the lease? I would consider it, and happily go broke for a while to avoid living in that situation for another 6 weeks, it sounds awful.


  • #3
    alberto67
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    somekindofhell wrote: »
    I recently broke up with my boyfriend whom I love dearly due to incompatibility reasons. Things that I realised we'd never get passed and would result in me being unhappy for the rest of my life if I stayed with him.

    Why don't you give your relationship another go? It sounds like you really love each other. Love doesn't come along very often, perhaps the things you think you will never get passed will resolve themselves or improve with time.

    Sometimes things that we feel strongly about change over time. How long have you been together?


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    Permabear
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