Viagra

Bredabe

Gentleman:
What advice would you give to a woman who feels her man needs to take Viagra or something similar to "improve" their sex life, specifically should she say it straight out to him/hint/dose him etc?

Pat Mustard

Bredabe wrote: »

Gentleman:
What advice would you give to a woman who feels her man needs to take Viagra or something similar to "improve" their sex life, specifically should she say it straight out to him/hint/dose him etc?

Well, don't do it without telling him, anyway!

Well the first question is to understand what you mean by "improve". Viagra has some pretty specific effects - and if you are hoping to "improve" things in ways that the drug does not actually do then you would simply be wasting your time.

Bredabe

Pat Mustard wrote: »

Well, don't do it without telling him, anyway!

From what he's told me its a fantasy to have it happen this way, I know what I would call it if it was the other way round. But for now, its how to bring the subject up is the issue.

Bredabe

Deleted User wrote: »

Well the first question is to understand what you mean by "improve". Viagra has some pretty specific effects - and if you are hoping to "improve" things in ways that the drug does not actually do then you would simply be wasting your time.

They are after the usual side effects of a drug like that.

Pat Mustard

Bredabe wrote: »

From what he's told me its a fantasy to have it happen this way, I know what I would call it if it was the other way round. But for now, its how to bring the subject up is the issue.

So you've spoken about it already, then?

jimgoose

It's a little difficult to say what the best approach might be without knowing a little more about the problem specifics. I take it the issue is the old "hydraulics", as 'twere, as opposed to something like premature ejaculation. That being so, are we talking about insufficient oil pressure, again as 'twere, or too long a mean-time-between-"risings"?

Bredabe

Pat Mustard wrote: »

So you've spoken about it already, then?

Just in a what is your wildest fantasy type convo that we had at his stag.

Bredabe

jimgoose wrote: »

It's a little difficult to say what the best approach might be without knowing a little more about the problem specifics. I take it the issue is the old "hydraulics", as 'twere, as opposed to something like premature ejaculation. That being so, are we talking about insufficient oil pressure, again as 'twere, or too long a mean-time-between-"risings"?

Sandstone when granite is needed.

Pat Mustard

Bredabe wrote: »

Just in a what is your wildest fantasy type convo that we had at his stag.

If you already talked about it then try to get around to the subject for an update.

Leaving aside the weirdness of having partners at stags or that fantasy in general!

jimgoose

Bredabe wrote: »

Sandstone when granite is needed.

That would be insufficient pressure then. Approach this positively - tell him everything is great and fantastic and so forth, but it would really put you through the ceiling if he lasted a bit longer. Then wheel round to certain medical "enhancements" to improve the already fantastic package.

Bredabe

Pat Mustard wrote: »

If you already talked about it then try to get around to the subject for an update.

Leaving aside the weirdness of having partners at stags or that fantasy in general!

He's not my partner, my best male friend here tho.
When it was mentioned I though it would be no harm to ask a group with a variety of men, what the best approach was in case it applied to my life at any point.

Bredabe

Bredabe wrote: »

They are after the usual side effects of a drug like that.

I doubt it is the side effects you are after. Some of them are far from what will improve the average sex life. From weirded out vision to a runny nose. But people are into some weird stuff I grant you

No what I was trying to get at is when you say "improve" do you mean there are erectile dysfunction issues in play here - or do you mean you wish to use the drug as a recreational one. There was a Guardian article on the latter some time ago.

Bredabe

jimgoose wrote: »

That would be insufficient pressure then. Approach this positively - tell him everything is great and fantastic and so forth, but it would really put you through the ceiling if he lasted a bit longer. Then wheel round to certain medical "enhancements" to improve the already fantastic package.

Yup, the problem is at point of entry, hence the extra tact needed.

jimgoose

Bredabe wrote: »

Yup, the problem is at point of entry, hence the extra tact needed.

Hmm. That's demoralizing to be sure. The wetter the lady is the better, and maybe more/better foreplay would improve things a bit?

...And Justice

I know a lad that takes the "blue steel" and he tells me that it's like a "horn you could bate a donkey out of a sandpit" he says that you can "arrive" and just go straight back in for more, over and over.....The caveat is that it may still be pointed north after you've finished satisfying the quivering mound of love pudding for a number of hours.

Bredabe

jimgoose wrote: »

Hmm. That's demoralizing to be sure. The wetter the lady is the better, and maybe more/better foreplay would improve things a bit?

I though so too, but both parties say they are good to go, but "shyness" hits in the intervening nanosecond.

jimgoose

Bredabe wrote: »

I though so too, but both parties say they are good to go, but "shyness" hits in the intervening nanosecond.

That happens. It's very important to be comfortable and communicative with a partner, so when little "synchronization" issues like that present they can be corrected.

Bredabe

Which brings us back to.....how to bring up the use/need for Viagra in a way that doesn't cause bad feelings/ego/lashout?

Wanderer78

Op, is he stressed?

Bredabe

Wanderer78 wrote: »

Op, is he stressed?

Mostly, I was just wondering to broach the subject if the need arose. Tg my friend and his new partner have stopped telling me about their problems in this area.

jimgoose

Bredabe wrote: »

Mostly, I was just wondering to broach the subject if the need arose. Tg my friend and his new partner have stopped telling me about their problems in this area.

Yes, that's odd in itself. Anyway, from some weird dude on the Internet - that youngfella doesn't need Viagra. He and Woman need to learn to relax together and treat sex as the open, supportive, communicative, two-way thing that it is.

Bredabe

jimgoose wrote: »

Yes, that's odd in itself. Anyway, from some weird dude on the Internet - that youngfella doesn't need Viagra. He and Woman need to learn to relax together and treat sex as the open, supportive, communicative, two-way thing that it is.

He'll love that you called him a young fella, he's in his mid 60's.

jimgoose

Bredabe wrote: »

He'll love that you called him a young fella, he's in his mid 60's.

Mid-60s? Sod it, get him intravenous Viagra drip! :pac:

Stigura

In mid sixties, with a 'new' partner since some time, possibly? I'd suspect that 'moment of doubt and fear' is at play here.

Anyway, he'd be best discussing this with his GP. I say this because everyone here is talking about the blue legend, exclusively.

Mate of mine, not even as 'internet savvy' as me (:rolleyes:) dropped by one time. Asked me to look up some drug. " Cilaris "? Something like that. Anyway, turned out he was having a spot of bother and the GP had been proscribing this stuff. Just that it was costing him a fortune!

Point is, it seems Viagra is cheaper, But, I got the impression, with this C' something, things occurred more naturally? Maybe even over a few days? He had the 'mental' on / off switch?

See? It's late. Some random lunatic with a computer is trying to remember a fleeting event from a year ago ..... He'd do far better asking his GP about his situation

Tigger

...And Justice wrote: »

I know a lad that takes the "blue steel" and he tells me that it's like a "horn you could bate a donkey out of a sandpit" he says that you can "arrive" and just go straight back in for more, over and over.....The caveat is that it may still be pointed north after you've finished satisfying the quivering mound of love pudding for a number of hours.

Yeah I miss being 19

glenfieldman

Does anyone know where to get under the counter generic tabs ?

Stigura

The generic gear tends to be produced in India. If you're happy to put that in ye mouth? Google it and fill ye boots.

Otherwise, with a bit of digging, there's a bona fide place, right here in Eire. " Health " ..... something or other, I think they're called? I found them whilst searching on behalf of my mate there.

Basically, it's like I buy my Dogs wormers, on line. Far cheaper than paying a vet a fortune to hand them over the counter. This place just cuts out the middle men. Pucker, Pfeizer stuff. At far more down to earth prices.

I'm sorry I can't be more help. I lost my complete OS to a power cut. The bookmark went with it They're on Google though.