Boyfriend booked holiday i cant afford

LegacyUser

hello all just wondering what other people would do my boyfriend booked a holiday for us in Greece his being paying it off monthy and there is only another 150 left to pay, but i cant go as i dont have any savings and im out of work and just about living on my reduced social welfare payment as we live together and his working i dont get the full money its only two months to go until the holiday and his so looking foward to it as we have not being away in over a year and he works so hard all year he deserves it and i have to ruin it as cant afford it, how do i go about telling him, also he can just about afford spending money for himsef so there is no way i can depend on him for spending money

kylith

Have you spoken to him about this?

GingerLily

Is there no way you can get some spending mney together to 2 months?

Part time jobs or babysitting even?

When did you first become unemployed and why do you now feel you can't afford the holiday suddenly?

Airyfairy12

It was inconsiderate of him to not discuss it with you first, he knows youre struggling financially right now.

Can you manage to put 10 or 15 away a week? Then when you get your dole the week youre going away you should have roughly 200. Not a lot of money but enough if you plan things properly. Also save all your change over the next 8 weeks, it really adds up.

Also tell social welfare he's a housemate and not your partner, you will get the full amount.

pc7

Airyfairy12 wrote: »

Also tell social welfare he's a housemate and not your partner, you will get the full amount.

This would be fraud, don't do it. Get a job and save a few quid, or if not live within your means, a holiday to Greece currently isn't in that.

neonsofa

Airyfairy12 wrote: »

It was inconsiderate of him to not discuss it with you first, he knows youre struggling financially right now.

Can you manage to put 10 or 15 away a week? Then when you get your dole the week youre going away you should have roughly 200. Not a lot of money but enough if you plan things properly. Also save all your change over the next 8 weeks, it really adds up.

Also tell social welfare he's a housemate and not your partner, you will get the full amount.

As already mentioned, that is fraud.

Op you're living together, surely he has an idea of finances etc. Are you sure he's not already aware that you can't afford it and he is willing to help you out financially while away if needed?

miamee

If he can barely afford it while working, I think he'll fully understand that you can't afford it while on the dole. Just talk to him about it, if it's not fully paid he may lose out on the deposit amount only when cancelling (something he'll have to check himself).

chuckles30

Did ye discuss booking the holiday before it was booked? Were you working at the time?

If there's only €150 left to be paid, it's probably too late to cancel without losing a lot of money. As others have said, have a look at ways of earning a bit of extra cash between now and then. If you're struggling to get a job, maybe try babysitting/childminding/cleaning work/take in laundry/offer an ironing service. Or look at decluttering - have you clutter/clothes/shoes lying around that won't get used again - try selling it on your local buy/sell page on Facebook - lots of people doing that.

Also look at what you need money for when you're there.....What's included in the price - is it self catering or hotel? You can keep your costs down by having breakfast/lunch from the local aldi/lidl or equivalent.

Mr. Incognito

People on the Dole cant afford holidays.

I think you are going to have to talk to him.

Or get a job.

GingerLily

chuckles30 wrote: »

Did ye discuss booking the holiday before it was booked? Were you working at the time?

If there's only €150 left to be paid, it's probably too late to cancel without losing a lot of money. As others have said, have a look at ways of earning a bit of extra cash between now and then. If you're struggling to get a job, maybe try babysitting/childminding/cleaning work/take in laundry/offer an ironing service. Or look at decluttering - have you clutter/clothes/shoes lying around that won't get used again - try selling it on your local buy/sell page on Facebook - lots of people doing that.

Also look at what you need money for when you're there.....What's included in the price - is it self catering or hotel? You can keep your costs down by having breakfast/lunch from the local aldi/lidl or equivalent.

Exactly!
2 months should be enough time to try get a little bit of cash together and there's no need to have an extravagant holiday, you can definitely do it on the cheap if you want to!

dudara

Airyfairy12 - as pointed out by other posters, please do not advocate welfare fraud.

dudara

dudara

OP - obviously you need to talk to him & explain your worries. He needs to be aware of the pressure you're under.

Reading your post, it seems that he himself is only just about able to afford the holiday, while you can't. I know it's already booked now but perhaps in future, it might be worth talking about these kinds of purchases to make sure you both can afford them. A holiday shouldn't push you to the edge financially.

neonsofa

Mr. Incognito wrote: »

People on the Dole cant afford holidays.

I think you are going to have to talk to him.

Or get a job.

From my experience, a lot of people on the dole can actually afford holidays. I don't know how but they do. So while op can't, it's not like it's a fact that her oh should know, if you get me.

thelad95

I've often been stuck coming up too a pre-booked holiday due to unexpected circumstances but honestly OP if you can cobble together 200, you'd be surprised how far that can stretch. You'll still have to get some money off your partner but at least you'll have a certain degree of independence financially e.g. you can have a few drinks without having to ask him to dig into his wallet.

And if it's a package holiday, a lot of meals etc may already be included.

I'd also take an educated guess and say that perhaps your other half kind of knew you were struggling anyway and feels he can mostly fund it himself? If not, then I hate too say it but he's been quite inconsiderate.

ShaShaBear

neonsofa wrote: »

From my experience, a lot of people on the dole can actually afford holidays. I don't know how but they do. So while op can't, it's not like it's a fact that her oh should know, if you get me.

It depends on the holiday. We were able to afford a holiday while on social welfare before. Granted, our rent is very low (no rent allowance/HAP), we were careful with our expenditure, we saved vigorously and we were sensible with our booking by waiting patiently for sales on flights and low-budget hotels. If you are on something like Jobseekers, you have the luxury of being free with the time of year/month/week you can travel, which leaves you free for deals that we now miss out on with jobs and school to consider
There'd be no fortnights sunning yer arse in Bora Bora like, but it's still doable if you are frugal and sensible.