Contact them or not?

Annasopra

My Dad died 2 years ago. His partner lives in what was my family home. We don't have a good relationship as she has treated us quite badly before and after his death. My Dad was a very community oriented person who did a lot of things for local community groups. A local community group he was involved in for over 20 years has marked different ocassions (mass for deceased members, celebration of 30 year founding). They invited his partner but she never passed on any invitation to us. My Sister is quite upset that we got left out. Letting his partner know this would cause a lot of unnecessary tension and drama but maybe we could mention it to the community group without msking a big deal of it. Any thoughts?

Another day

Absolutely! I would imagine they are unaware that the invitation has not been extended.

Airyfairy12

You should say something, hopefully next time they'll send an invite to you instead.

chuckles30

Yes, definitely mention it to the committee. I'm involved in community committees myself and my guess is that the invitation is intended for the whole family. Maybe try to do it in an informal way if you know any of the other members of the committee rather than making a big deal of it.

Annasopra

chuckles30 wrote: »

Yes, definitely mention it to the committee. I'm involved in community committees myself and my guess is that the invitation is intended for the whole family. Maybe try to do it in an informal way if you know any of the other members of the committee rather than making a big deal of it.

Thats the thing. I dont want to make a big deal.

GingerLily

You could approach them by thanking them for one if the memorial events the have already held for your father and tell them you'd love to be more involved if they plan anything else?

kylith

Joeytheparrot wrote: »

Thats the thing. I dont want to make a big deal.

Just tell them that you're not often in contact with his partner and would like to give them your phone number.