Political boyfriend

bluebrickhouse

Hi everyone

I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years and we are due to get married soon. Very much in love and generally a great relationship. However over the past few months he has begun to get extremely political. He is constantly consuming right wing articles, newspapers and view points. This is itself isn't a problem, as in I'm not left wing or anything. I am pretty much centre. I do agree with some of the things he says. The issue however is that he is becoming increasingly more vocal. It is really boring me as I am much more of a live and let live attitude. I don't need to constantly think about the right and wrongs of society. I have said this to him and he has stopped discussing this with me to a degree. But I am becoming worried as it's really beginning to consume him. I have noticed with friends family etc every conversation moves this way. He is constantly pushing this opinion on people. He is also planning on attending some very right wing party movement which I fear will make him even worse.

We get along so well but this is wearing on me. And I am getting worried for him that it's consuming his mind so much. It's all well and good to have a strong opinion but I believe you need to be more balanced in life views. It's not so much the views but the strength of them if you get me!

I'm not sure what I can do about this - probably nothing - but would love to hear opinions.

LegacyUser

How right-wing are we taking? Because if he is becoming involved in a far-right organisation or something like that then I personally couldn't stay in a relationship with someone like that. If it's less extreme/more moderate viewpoints that that then I think you're handing it as well as you possibly can already, just keep emphasising that you find constant talk about politics tedious.

PressRun

It would really depend on how right-wing he is...
Joining a far-right organisation would be very dodgy territory, as far as I'm concerned.
I would also be concerned with how obsessive he is about these ideas. It's all well and good to have a political opinion, most people have them, but to have it "consuming his mind", as you put it, would be worrying from my point of view.
How did these ideas crop up? How/why has he become obsessed with them? Is he interested in anything else? Is the interest in politics a new thing with him?

December2012

Political people who push their agendas in general conversation are acting as obnoxious bores. Why is he trying to convince anybody? There's a time and a place. Have you told him this?

retro:electro

Oh stop. I love a good political debate now and again but I would go stir crazy if I had to be listening to it constantly, never mind that of the far right kind. It can be very off putting and unattractive. It's nice to have healthy debate but pushing your views on people is a step too far. I can imagine it's very embarrassing as well out socialising etc.. Does he tend to get worked up/angry when discussing?
I'd be wary of this group movement he's soon joining.

Airyfairy12

Are his views hateful towards groups of people? like the lgbt community or immigrants? where has all this come from? does he watch allot of right wing videos on youtube? is he spending too much time online? Is this completely out of the blue and a change in his character? If thats the case something else could be going on with him. The fact he's joining a movement is very worrying.

Personally I couldnt stand being around someone who was forceful of their views and beliefs, particularly hateful or conservative views but after 5 years of a relationship its not so easy to leave.

Can you ask his family or some of his close friends to bring it up with him to see if they can talk any sense into him?