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Knock a bit of sense into me..

  • 17-07-2017 8:39pm
    #1
    tipp.angel
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 30 ✭


    This post sounds ridiculous..my boyfriend is groomsman for his friend..a part of that bridal party is a girl the groom and his bride to be tried to set my boyfriend up with..this was just before I came on the scene...i can't understand why i have this under lying feeling of insecurity when we both love each other to bits..can anybody help me put my feelings into perspective please..the wedding is not till September & i certainly do not want to be feeling this way 😭


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  • #2
    whoopsadoodles
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,058 ✭✭✭whoopsadoodles


    tipp.angel wrote: »
    This post sounds ridiculous..my boyfriend is groomsman for his friend..a part of that bridal party is a girl the groom and his bride to be tried to set my boyfriend up with..this was just before I came on the scene...i can't understand why i have this under lying feeling of insecurity when we both love each other to bits..can anybody help me put my feelings into perspective please..the wedding is not till September & i certainly do not want to be feeling this way 😭

    The key word there is "tried".

    He clearly has fcuk all interest.

    And you know about it...which means your boyf told you which means he clearly has fcuk all interest.


  • #3
    December2012
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,695 ✭✭✭December2012


    He didn't want her, he's with you. Being in a bridal party generally doesn't mean you do anything with the other side, save for a few photos.

    If you're happy, just let it go. Hopefully you can go too?


  • #4
    Big Bag of Chips
    Administrators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 14,914 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭Big Bag of Chips


    It sounds like your bf and the other person are obviously good friends of the couple. If there was a time they were both single it seems likely that they might try set them up. Not because they believed they fancied each other, but his because, they both really liked them individually and thought they might hit it off together. Friends try to set friends up, especially if they're loved up themselves. I'd say it means nothing to any of them!

    They didn't get together, and now he's with you. During the run up to the wedding the male side and female side don't really have anything to do with each other. On the day there's a few photos and the first dance. Other than that they won't have much/any dealings with each other.

    It's understandable that you'd feel a bit weird about this. But this was before any of them knew you, and I'd say they probably hardly remember it now!


  • #5
    Keyzer
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,331 ✭✭✭Keyzer


    At the risk of sounding harsh, cop on. There is nothing to see here. You're worrying about nothing.


  • #6
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 0 ✭ [Deleted User]


    You're being silly.


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  • #7
    GingerLily
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,767 ✭✭✭GingerLily


    They really don't need to spend any time alone together and barely any time without you present, they probably won't even be seated near each other at the meal. Bridesmaids and groomsmen don't really hand out all the much, just small talk after the ceremony before the meal, there is nothing sexy about that.


  • #8
    retro:electro
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 21,039 ✭✭✭✭retro:electro


    I've been at weddings where the bridesmaids and groomsmen met for the first time on the day, and barely saw each other even on that day. There's no bridal party exclusive nights out that you won't be invited on, afaik. He'll probably see f all of her to be honest.
    But the most salient point is if they wanted to be together, they would be. For whatever reason it didn't work out. He's with you now. Enjoy the day.


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