How many bridesmaids/grooms men

Pinkycharm

So I want 4 bridesmaids but hubby to be just wants 2 of his friends up with him. Will that look ridiculous or do you have to match 4 with 4?

baby and crumble

I don't think it looks weird, although some might disagree. For ages our party was going to be unbalanced as I have 3 of my school friends I couldn't imagine getting married without them in my "corner" so to speak, herself only had two. Now it's balanced but that wasn't done on purpose. It's your day, do what you like!

talkinggal

what works best is what you are both happy with. if you want 4 and he is happy with 2 then that's the best thing to do. don't worry about how it may look to others

stargazer 68

I had 3 bridesmaids and 2 groomsmen - suited us. Go with what you want - don't worry about anyone else

Personally I'd even it up works better for photos, first dance, walking out of the church etc. Can't remember any wedding I've been to having a mismatch of bridesmaids/groomsmen.

cactusgal

Anders Tender Tombstone wrote: »

Personally I'd even it up works better for photos, first dance, walking out of the church etc. Can't remember any wedding I've been to having a mismatch of bridesmaids/groomsmen.

But does anyone actually care?

GingerLily

cactusgal wrote: »

But does anyone actually care?

If you're going to have uneven numbers make sure you don't pair up the bridesmaids v groomsmen at any stage - because you'll have one gal/lad left on their own and feeling very awkward!

I was that odd one out and it was a bit sh*t tbh with everyone looking

stargazer 68

We had odd numbers as I said but there was certainly no pairing at any time. The best man and moh walked back up the aisle together and the groomsman had 1 bridesmaid on either arm
That was it.

cactusgal

GingerLily wrote: »

If you're going to have uneven numbers make sure you don't pair up the bridesmaids v groomsmen at any stage - because you'll have one gal/lad left on their own and feeling very awkward!

I was that odd one out and it was a bit sh*t tbh with everyone looking

Oh, that's not a nice feeling! Yes, sorry didn't consider that. I meant the guests likely wouldn't notice or care.

Rachiee

I don't think they need to match up and asking someone to be a groomsmen it a bridesmaid just for the sake of matching makes a bit of a mockery of the whole point of wanting them to be part of the day.
The only reason to have matching numbers is to make the photos looks perfectly symmetrical or so they can walk back down the aisle together or crash the first dance in couples. All those things are fairly pointless and don't necessarily need to be done in fake couples and pairs on the day.

GingerLily

cactusgal wrote: »

Oh, that's not a nice feeling! Yes, sorry didn't consider that. I meant the guests likely wouldn't notice or care.

If you don't pair them up then no, no normal guest would bat an eyelid- so go ahead

bee06

If two of the bridesmaids have partners then they can do the walking down the aisle and the first dance bit. Nobody will care really and with the pics I'm sure the photographer will know how to arrange everyone so it looks grand.

mcgiggles

Pinkycharm wrote:

So I want 4 bridesmaids but hubby to be just wants 2 of his friends up with him. Will that look ridiculous or do you have to match 4 with 4?

Each man will have 2 women to walk him down the aisle! Lucky them ;-) honestly noone will bat an eyelid! Half the weddings I've been to I barely remember how many the bride or groom had standing for them! :-)

Typer Monkey

My husband had a bestman and two groomsmen and I had just one bridesmaid. Didn't matter a jot. We got married in the hotel so there was no walking up or down the aisle in pairs bit. We also didn't do the cringey 'forcing practical strangers to slow dance together' bit after our first dance. Do what you want/like and stop worrying about convention. No-one will care or notice!

Pinkycharm

bee06 wrote: »

If two of the bridesmaids have partners then they can do the walking down the aisle and the first dance bit. Nobody will care really and with the pics I'm sure the photographer will know how to arrange everyone so it looks grand.

Thanks for this, it could be a great idea!!

Pinkycharm

mcgiggles wrote: »

Each man will have 2 women to walk him down the aisle! Lucky them ;-) honestly noone will bat an eyelidd! Half the weddings I've been to I barely remember how many the bride or groom had standing for them! :-)

Never even thought of this!!

Yogaqueen

Personally I think its up to each Bride and Groom in what they want. Dont follow rules etc. Its your day afterall.

ShaShaBear

I see someone got there before me, I think given you've double the bridesmaids, you'd get a good, heart-warming giggle out of each groomsman having 2 beautiful ladies in arm during the day :pac: