Did you pay for drinks on your wedding day?

Faith

On your wedding day, did your venue charge you (the bride and groom) for drinks purchased during the event?

We got married in a relatively expensive hotel, and didn't get charged when we went to the bar, even if buying rounds. But we attended a wedding this weekend in a similarly priced venue where they did charge the bride and groom. It got me to wondering which was more common?

harr

Faith wrote: »

On your wedding day, did your venue charge you (the bride and groom) for drinks purchased during the event?

We got married in a relatively expensive hotel, and didn't get charged when we went to the bar, even if buying rounds. But we attended a wedding this weekend in a similarly priced venue where they did charge the bride and groom. It got me to wondering which was more common?

To be honest I don't think I even bought a drink at my wedding I definitely can't remember going to the bar, I know I drank feck all and only really let the hair down a bit in the residents bar and I think I did pay for our drinks at that stage.
The hotel did supply us with drinks up until after the dinner...

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Faith

Yeah, I didn't go to the bar myself on the wedding day but my husband did and they waved away his attempt at paying. We had a barbecue the next day and we also weren't charged for drinks during that on the odd time we went to the bar. I think I just assumed that that was how it worked for all weddings!

Pistachios & cream

I don't remember being charged and I definitely ordered at least 1-2. I thought they were going on our room bill but in practice the hotel didn't charge us. In saying that I don't think either of us ordered big rounds.

StarBright01

We never got charged either

Dee01

Wow - I didn't know this was a thing. We were charged for everything. Every cent.

vintagecosmos

Is an open bar at a wedding a common thing? or expected even?

Malari

We had an open bar so we were charged at the end of the night!

missmatty

We had an open bar after dinner with a certain amount on the tab and were charged for that and everything else.

mcgiggles

vintagecosmos wrote:

Is an open bar at a wedding a common thing? or expected even?

Open bar for guests no.. not common and not expected! I think the poster means just for the bride and groom?

Sunny Dayz

I don't think I even got near the bar the day of our wedding, I was just too busy to drink, and I think it was the most sober I've ever been at a wedding! Many people will offer to buy you a drink. I ended up with half-drank drinks left on peoples tables and switched to water for a while as I was starting to lose my voice from talking and singing!

clint_silver

I've seen different hotels have different policies here, the relative opulence of any given hotel is not an indicator that it will happen. Ive seen it happen in budget and swanky locations and also seen a very expensive place charge a bride for a fizzy water which to this day I'll never understand as she had to ask someone for a lend of money for it

tedpan

We bought the first round and wine during the meal.

autumnbelle

I would have just expected that we'd have to pay for our own drinks. Very good of the hotels that don't charge

Faith

To be clear, I am referring just to the bride and groom, and to drinks that fall outside of the wedding package.

I think we assumed they'd end up on our bill too, but they didn't. It's interesting that it seems to vary by venue! Our venue was 5* but we only had 110 guests, so not lavish. The wedding I attended at the weekend was 4* but with twice as many guests, so I'm assuming the final bill was a lot higher than ours for the reception. It really seems to depend on venue policy and nothing else.

bigpink

So if you go to the bar and ordered a big round it was free?

GingerLily

bigpink wrote: »

So if you go to the bar and ordered a big round it was free?

I'd imagine the venue would charge then if they didnt want to cover the round, no mention of it being a formal agreement.

bee06

I didn't really drink at my wedding so never found out. I didn't have any money on me either so if I had got a drink and they charged me I'd have been fecked!

DwightKSchrute

I got married almost 3 months ago & neither of us paid for drinks we ordered all evening. Up until about an hour after the meal our designated server would pop over and ask us what we'd like to drink and bring it to us free of charge. I didn't order any drinks directly from the bar because everywhere I looked another guest would be handing me a glass of bubbly. However when he ordered drinks at the bar, if a guest didn't pay then he wasn't asked for payment. It was a lovely surprise, neither of us expected it at all.

seamus

I don't know tbh. Certainly I didn't go through the final bill to see what drinks had been charged.

My recollection though is that people just kept putting drinks in front of me - presumably because they bought them for me, because thats what I always did at other peoples' weddings.

miamee

Sounds like most people don't drink much on their wedding day from the thread so throwing a few drinks in for free is a lovely gesture that is not going to break them.

Toots

I don't drink, so any time I went to the bar it was for a soft drink, and I wasn't charged for it. I assumed it was just being charged to the room (seeing as I was in a wedding dress it'd be fairly obvious which room we were staying in) but when we checked out there were no drinks added to the room bill.

Addle

Any hotel I've worked in, bride and groom drinks were added to a tab, then to their bill.
They weren't paid for at time of order, but were paid for in the end.

Also one hotel was notorious for adding a round for the staff to the bill.