Dating - Texting - Meeting up

ladygoodman

Started texting a guy from tinder about 3 weeks ago, he was keen to meet, still is, messages everyday, very friendly - awkward timing as he went to his home county for a week and when he was due back I went abroad for a week.

Both home now, yet seems to be obstacles regarding setting a date - he was down the country on Thursday for work and we planned to meet that evening at 8.30.

8.30 rolls around, and he says he's late and had some issues with his car, hours keep rolling by and he just keeps saying he will be late - he didn't specify a time or even where he was exactly - at this point I decided we'll leave it at that for the night and head to a mates. Saturday he's all mine, according to him.

Saturday rolls around then he says he has to help a mate and will give me a shout after - I made some early afternoon plans to keep busy, then was home for the day, waiting and waiting, until he eventually says he can't meet.

I say, That's grand, but I'm not a fan of waiting around for anyone and to let me know earlier next time and he apologises.

What do I do at this point? Am I a fool for giving him the benefit of the doubt?

Big Bag of Chips

He's being cagey, making excuses, not being clear about when/where/if. You haven't even met him. Move on.

Airyfairy12

Sounds like he is in a relationship/married.

woodchuck

If he really wanted to meet, he would've made it happen by now. After cancelling twice, I'd call it a day.

ladygoodman

Thanks all for your replies

He's away now for a week (first I've heard of it) gonna call it a day.

Bandana boy

Defo a Married Man

bucketybuck

He didn't show for a date Thursday, arranged to meet on Saturday instead, and then blew you off yet again just because a 'mate' needed a hand? What, he couldn't have just told his mate, "sorry, I've got something I have to do, missed it once already and can't miss it twice"...

Even if he is on the level, which is doubtful, you still should be deleting and running a mile.

Mr. Incognito

Married.

road_high

ladygoodman wrote: »

Both home now, yet seems to be obstacles regarding setting a date - he was down the country on Thursday for work and we planned to meet that evening at 8.30.

8.30 rolls around, and he says he's late and had some issues with his car, hours keep rolling by and he just keeps saying he will be late - he didn't specify a time or even where he was exactly - at this point I decided we'll leave it at that for the night and head to a mates. Saturday he's all mine, according to him.

Did you actually arrange and go some place to meet him and he never turned up? That is the height of sheer rudeness and bad manners

ladygoodman

road_high wrote: »

Did you actually arrange and go some place to meet him and he never turned up? That is the height of sheer rudeness and bad manners

We had a vague plan to meet for a coffee on the Thursday in a town close to where we both live.

I believed him when he said he was running late, but then the Saturday, I just thought it was complete bull****, and then he hid the fact he was away this week.

Dial Hard

ladygoodman wrote:

... and then he hid the fact he was away this week.

Or he's not away at all and just said that to defer you for another week.

Cut your losses and move on. This guy has absolutely zero intention of meeting you. Unfortunately online dating is full of these time wasters.

redfox123

In the nicest possible way HE HAS NO INTENTION OF MEETING YOU. Well not until he has absolutely nothing else to do. He picking up on the fact that you are actually waiting around for him, a guy you've simply been texting. Sorry but if you have a scarcity mindset when he comes to dates like that you will get losers like him stringing you along. Text someone for max a week then if there's no date set up or the persons not eager to meet then NEXT. If you have an abundance mindset about men, don't be thinking about them anymore than necessary, (until you're in a relationship) then they will assume you have value (which you do, and you need to believe this) and they will not procrastinate setting up a date.

GuessWhoEh

Leave him be. He's made it clear that he would rather help other people than make plans. That's fair enough. Cancelling one date with a "reasonable" excuse and then not even trying to attempt a better excuse for the second date. Get rid. You can do better. If he's like that now, imagine what he would be like in a few months time.