Mother/Son - Mother in law rant

MyLove_J

My brother wasn't working for a long time but he's in employment now and on his feet for well over a year.

He's being a proper moody and selfish sh1tbag. He's not happy living at home and that's clear but he's happy to remain there all the same rent and bill free and be very happy not to pay his way. Get his laundry and room/lovenest for when girlfriend stays over - cleaned from our mam. He's being very moody. When he's not working and if he's at home, he's in his room nearly avoiding the family and when ever he does get up - he hardly speaks a word to anyone and barks when there's no food in the house. His favourite sauce wasn't in the press last week and we all heard about it.

My mam doesn't ask a lot of him. She needed a job done during the weekend and he said he'll get around to doing it on Sunday. Sunday came and went and he couldn't be bothered. No word from him at all. Just avoided mam.

He's not a teenage boy. He's a grown man in his 20s. Really, I think my mam is an enabler of this muck. He should be shown a dose of the real world.

My mam has a hatred for his girlfriend. She hasn't shown her side to him yet and there are many dirty snide remarks to me about her. Yesterday, my brother was being a lazy sh1tbag and my mam says - no doubt the girl is behind it all. You can bet she told him not to tell him to help at home. How she came to this is beyond me but puke inducing. Not the first time she passed such comments. Blaming the girlfriend for his moods all the time. Instead of seeing him for ungrateful and selfish person she raised him to be, she was slapping the blame on the girls back. Some day this woman could be her daughter in law.

Rant over.

ohnonotgmail

would some mother-in-law jokes be inappropriate at this juncture?

Xterminator

your brother is a grown man. it doesn't matter what his girlfriend says, he bears responsibility for his own actions and the blame for the lack of them too. forget about the girl, your brother should know better. and yous your mother is enabling his behaviour. But her relationship with him, thats between her and him.

while i can understand you voicing your disapproval, unless your mother looks for advice, then id give her the courtesy of treating her like a grown up too and respect her right to make her own decisions about her own home.

making trouble wont help your mother, now will it?

gramar

Poor fella...mother hates his girlfriend, his sister on his back and his girlfriend turning him against his mother. Feckin' women. No wonder he's moody.

2ygb4cmqetsjhx

Is anyone else wondering what this has to do with the OPs mother in law? :ermm:

In seriousness though. I have a sneaking feeling that this guy is stressed and it's all caused by the three women in his life. Be it sister, mother and mother in law. I'd say he'd love to get the **** out of that house. There is more to this story .

Peregrinus

Dahlia Glamorous Gravy wrote: »

Is anyone else wondering what this has to do with the OPs mother in law? :ermm:

I think the point is that the mother in this story, instead of confronting her son's behaviour and his responsibility for his behaviour, is blaming the son's girlfriend, to whom she is (not quite) a mother-in-law.

2ygb4cmqetsjhx

Peregrinus wrote: »

Dahlia Glamorous Gravy wrote: »

Is anyone else wondering what this has to do with the OPs mother in law? :ermm:

I think the point is that the mother in this story, instead of confronting her son's behaviour and his responsibility for his behaviour, is blaming the son's girlfriend, to whom she is (not quite) a mother-in-law.

Yeah. That makes more sense.

biko

I don't get it
Why is there "Mother in law" in the title?

Are you the mother in law, OP?
Or are you referring to some possible scenario that might not happen? "Some day this woman could be her daughter in law"

The Backwards Man

My mother in law came over the other day in a thunderstorm. She was absolutely soaked to the skin. So I opened the door and says to her 'what the hell are you doing out there in the pishing rain and the thunder and lightning?

Piss off back home!.'

RobbingBandit

Anagram for mother in law, woman Hitler.

Fr_Dougal

MyLove_J wrote: »

My brother wasn't working for a long time but he's in employment now and on his feet for well over a year.

He's being a proper moody and selfish sh1tbag. He's not happy living at home and that's clear but he's happy to remain there all the same rent and bill free and be very happy not to pay his way. Get his laundry and room/lovenest for when girlfriend stays over - cleaned from our mam. He's being very moody. When he's not working and if he's at home, he's in his room nearly avoiding the family and when ever he does get up - he hardly speaks a word to anyone and barks when there's no food in the house. His favourite sauce wasn't in the press last week and we all heard about it.

My mam doesn't ask a lot of him. She needed a job done during the weekend and he said he'll get around to doing it on Sunday. Sunday came and went and he couldn't be bothered. No word from him at all. Just avoided mam.

He's not a teenage boy. He's a grown man in his 20s. Really, I think my mam is an enabler of this muck. He should be shown a dose of the real world.

My mam has a hatred for his girlfriend. She hasn't shown her side to him yet and there are many dirty snide remarks to me about her. Yesterday, my brother was being a lazy sh1tbag and my mam says - no doubt the girl is behind it all. You can bet she told him not to tell him to help at home. How she came to this is beyond me but puke inducing. Not the first time she passed such comments. Blaming the girlfriend for his moods all the time. Instead of seeing him for ungrateful and selfish person she raised him to be, she was slapping the blame on the girls back. Some day this woman could be her daughter in law.

Rant over.

Both of you need to move out.

gramar

Fr_Dougal wrote: »

Both of you need to move out.

OP and his girlfriend? Op and his mother? OP and his sister?
Please specify!!!

Are Am Eye

Op do you like this girl? Is there chemistry?

MrMorooka

My relationship with my mother improved like 1000% when I moved out, and I've heard the same from others. I love her and all, but living with her was tough and I would not do it again if I can avoid it.

I think for men in their 20s especially, it's important to move out from home, try to live independently a bit and learn some things about yourself. For whatever reason things become strained and a lot of low level frustration comes about, it can just become unpleasant.

scamalert

id agree with get out option, but in this economy given housing state you have many living at home, not because they want to because they cant afford to fork out 1k, that said couple should be able to pull it of.

since its unclear who's who, seems brother needs some common sense kicked into him, load with bills and rent and talk to your mom like adult about situation, mothers tend to carry weight and will do so, but if she doesnt see whats the problem then guess her house her rules if shes ok with that.

gmisk

It sounds like your brother needs a literal and figurative kick up the a#se and it is up to your mum to give it to him.
I would never in a million years behave like that in my parents house.
He also should at the very least be contributing something to the house (bills, rent etc) if he is working.

Stonedpilot

Just leave him be and stop bitching about him and get on with your life, you could power Ireland for weeks with the resentment you have for him. Only hurts you, not him.
Anyway It sounds like he could be mentally ill. Depression or agrophobia . Depressed people can be moody and isolated alot.