sharing a bed

LegacyUser

what do others do in this situation


moved in with the long term girlfriend a few months ago now

before i lived with my parents and I had a room all of my own, if i felt a wee bit horny at night it was so easy to finish myself off, could even do this every night is i so wished


now that i share a bed i can't just go at it and instead have to wait till herself is in the mood, maybe 2 to 3 times a week if i'm lucky

I would love to go back to a room of my own but no idea how to bring that up in conversation

presume a lot of blokes are caught in the same bind, so what did ye do

Would it not be easier to broach the possibility of having a **** in the bed instead of getting a separate room..?

charlietheminxx

Have a shower before bed and have one in the bathroom!

Dial Hard

Deleted User wrote:

Would it not be easier to broach the possibility of having a **** in the bed instead of getting a separate room..?

This. I can't fathom why she would have a problem with you sorting yourself out if she's not in the humour for sex.

Meauldsegosha

Talk to your girlfriend. If you are adult enough to move in together you're adult enough to talk about sex.

My OH does it in the bed beside me. I would hate for him to think he had to seek off to another room to masturbate.

bren2002

Meauldsegosha wrote: »

Talk to your girlfriend. If you are adult enough to move in together you're adult enough to talk about sex.

My OH does it in the bed beside me. I would hate for him to think he had to seek off to another room to masturbate.

Have you tried giving him a hand?

Contessa Raven

Can't you ask her to help you out? Seems like a reasonable request to me! Might lead to sex too!

If she defo won't help out then I would suggest having a shower before bed and sorting yourself out there. Personally, I'd find it really weird to be lying in bed next to someone while they knocked one out. :P

Lake Sunshine

I usually just masturbate in the bathroom downstairs when my wife is upstairs, do you have a downstairs bathroom?

ibarelycare

I'm extremely open-minded and I wouldn't be up for my bf having a **** in the bed beside me! If I'm not in the mood for a ride it's generally cos I'm tired, and I'm hardly going to sleep with the bed shaking and heavy breathing :pac:

Wanting a separate room is very extreme. Just masturbate privately...if you don't have a spare room use the shower.

blue note

I'd feel very uncomfortable having a **** with my girlfriend beside me. I would actually be a major turnoff.

Pop into the bathroom and knock one out. Simples.

LegacyUser

You want to have your own bedroom so you can masturbate? Seriously OP your not living with your parents anymore you can masturbate in any room, just clean up after yourself. If you can only do it in bed then talk to your GF. Make sure she understand your not trying to pressure her into sex every time. If you feel your sex life is lacking that's a different conversation.

Boardz Fiend

Meauldsegosha wrote: »

Talk to your girlfriend. If you are adult enough to move in together you're adult enough to talk about sex.

My OH does it in the bed beside me. I would hate for him to think he had to seek off to another room to masturbate.

If i found myself in a relationship where my OH lay in bed beside me while i sorted myself out, sorry but i would have serious issues with that. To reverse the roles... If my girlfriend was horny, no matter how tired i was.. i would go to the ends of the earth to get her off either by hand or at least with some dirty talk. I couldnt lie there and leave her to sort herself out.

Meauldsegosha

Boardz Fiend wrote: »

If i found myself in a relationship where my OH lay in bed beside me while i sorted myself out, sorry but i would have serious issues with that. To reverse the roles... If my girlfriend was horny, no matter how tired i was.. i would go to the ends of the earth to get her off either by hand or at least with some dirty talk. I couldnt lie there and leave her to sort herself out.

I would have a bigger issue with my OH waking me up when he comes in from working late shift.

You go the the ends of the earth for your OH if you wish but don't judge me, my OH or our relationship, we are very happy.

My advice to the OP was to speak with his girlfriend, what advice are you offering him?

suicide_circus

I'm my house we operate under a "Don't ask, don't tell" policy