What are we doing wrong, or what is wrong with me (sexually)?

Alannah Gallagher

I can experience sexual pleasure and climax very well from foreplay, but I get nothing or very little from the actual sex itself. I did the first couple of weeks but it kind of seemed by body just got used to it. Seriously, half the time I only know he's inside me because I can feel his balls on the outside. We've tried different positions, we've tried ribbed/bobbled condoms, but it seems finger and tongue are the only the only things that work for me.

baby and crumble

You're not unusual OP. I'm not straight but I have certainly heard lots of women talk about how penetrative sex doesn't actually do much for them. It's just how your body is, nothing wrong with it.

Why not make sure you climax by whatever method works before your boyfriend "goes for it"? That way you're warmed up?

seenitall

Hi OP,

Make sure you are positioned so that his thrusts are stimulating your clitoris just as much as his hands or tongue would. It works so well when done right, believe me! Missionary is actually one of the best positions for this, too.

Alternatively, as said above, you can always keep relying on hands and tongue before intercourse for your own orgasm, and then the penetration for his orgasm. But I personally think it would be a pity to leave it at that.

In the course of years I have discovered that good positioning counts for so much!

Good luck!

Sleepy

Find positions that allow him (or you) to stimulate your clit while being penetrated. Cowgirl is particularly good for this.