Dealing with sisters

LegacyUser

My other thread has been closed but just wanted to give update. I have not texted one of my sisters and vice - versa and I am happy.
I hear from my aunt that my sister went to visit her and also my other sister is going next week. This would not make a difference but I suggested we all go visit together and no one was forthcoming so basically I am making zero effort anymore. I will go to events be civil but will not be the one running after them and trying to arrange everything....

Big Bag of Chips

Seriously! You suggested you all go together, on the same day? Clearly that didn't suit your sisters if 2 of them have both visited separately on separate days. Yet, somehow, this is a slight on you by them?

I've approved your thread but I expect it might be locked soon due to you just not getting it! It's the same complaints from you, and the same advice from everyone here.

I can't see what good another thread is going to do.

GingerLily

Please get some hobbies and friends and forget about your sister's, no good can come of your obsessing that people don't do what you want

retro:electro

My god. It's like groundhog day. Stop obsessing about what your sisters may or may not be doing and get out there and enjoy your own life.
Why are you coming back and giving updates? Believe it or not but nobody else is as interested in your sisters lives as you are!

freshpopcorn

I have an awful feeling it's your sisters who have to deal with you from reading these threads, if your the same person!

LegacyUser

They went behind my back and visited after I suggested it.
God forbid I thought it was a nice thing to do...

Anyway, I am leaving them off...

Big Bag of Chips

So they'd never visited your aunt before? Either of them? And when you suggested you all go together (why did you suggest that when in previous other threads you've said you're finished with them?) they decide to go themselves?

retro:electro

dealing wrote: »

<Snip> No need to repost

You mean they went at a time that suited them, individually, as normal people often do.
Stop with the paranoia, it must be exhausting and I can't imagine it's healthy.

bee06

dealing wrote: »

<Snip> No need to repost

This is your view. Another view would be they organised a time that would suit them rather than trying to work around your schedule. Why would ye all need to go together?

GritBiscuit

dealing wrote: »

Anyway, I am leaving them off...

So do that....and I mean stop giving them so much of your head-space.

If you suggested visiting a relative together and nobody returned your calls/messages and went and did it anyway....that's pretty rude but in the grand scheme of things, it is not worth giving this much of your energy over to. People are rude, people are forgetful, people are busy - all you can do is surround yourself with the kind of people who give you the greatest joy and politely grit your teeth around everyone else. We all do it. This is life. I think you need to accept this is the relationship your sisters are choosing to have with you, make your peace with that and move on. No amount of gnashing of teeth, wailing, ignoring or throwing strops is going to change people into someone they don't want to be, it just sucks all the energy and joy out of your own life.

Best of luck

Big Bag of Chips

Mod note:OP, can I ask, are you looking for advice here or are you just venting. And if you are looking for advice what sort of advice would you like people to offer you?

Personal Issues is an advice forum and as such posts that do not offer advice to an OP can end up being actioned. If you are not looking for advice and are instead just venting maybe it would be better to find a different forum. I'm not exactly sure where you could post. There is a Ranting & Raving forum which you can request access to.

If you would like advice from posters here, just clarify what advice you are looking for. Otherwise I think it will be best to lock the thread. Before posters start falling foul of the Charter!