Friend issue

shoes34

I have a friend who recently moved to a house in the countryside, they had previously lived near me. Its only a 15 minute drive from me.

She has invited me to call down to visit and whenever we make arrangements she either cancels the afternoon I am due down or the evening before. This has happened 3 times. Now I understand she has a busy life she has kids and I don't but I still have stuff on most evenings.

This morning she text again to say call down this week or weekend, I have stuff on for the next few evenings and this weekend I have made plans so I said I could pop down on Friday around 5.30pm but would only stay till 7pm. Also said I know it may not suit and if she wanted we could do lunch next week.

Now I know 5.30 doesn't always suits but that is the only time that suits me at the moment, but I sometimes feel she thinks as I am childless I should fit in around her. Now maybe I sound like a bitch for complaining but this is not the first time this has happened, she has often made plans and then cancelled them at the last minute.

I am not sure what I want to get from this post - just venting !

Big Bag of Chips

You're both busy and haven't managed to meet up yet. It happens. I have a couple of friends and we have a long standing joke "What are you doing on 17th July 2019?". I doubt she thinks you have nothing better to be doing. You've given her a time that suits you, if that doesn't suit her it's not really anyone's fault!

You can be annoyed over this, or you can make a laugh out of how you might see each other before Christmas!

Wesser

I had a friend who.used to do this.
Literally 10 meets in a row she cancelled or was extremely late like an hour late..
I have just accepted it and mentally.moved on.
She does it to everyone not just me.
I love her company and have a great laugh with her but I don't attach any importance to appointments that she makes. If they happen it's a bonus. Zero expectations.

via4

How close are you guys? Like for example if you popped in unexpected for a half hour would she mind? Sometimes I find when me and the girls plan things they never happen but when we randomly pop down to each other it's great. And before anyone on this says oh that's not what I'd like i know from experience people with kids love a visit from friends calling to them I don't know anyone who doesn't. It's hard when you have kids one always seems to get sick when you have a day planned etc.
I defo wouldn't take it as she dsnt want to see you it's probably the exact opposite.

shoes34

via4 wrote: »

How close are you guys? Like for example if you popped in unexpected for a half hour would she mind? Sometimes I find when me and the girls plan things they never happen but when we randomly pop down to each other it's great. And before anyone on this says oh that's not what I'd like i know from experience people with kids love a visit from friends calling to them I don't know anyone who doesn't. It's hard when you have kids one always seems to get sick when you have a day planned etc.
I defo wouldn't take it as she dsnt want to see you it's probably the exact opposite.

We would be very close friends and there was a time when we use to see each other very regularly for coffee or just even a 15 minute chat. If she needed someone to look after her children she would ring me sometimes even very last minute and unless I had something I couldn't get out of I would always help her out.

Maybe its more to do with me, that I am the type of person that makes arrangements and doesn't cancel, except I had to cancel one recently due to a family emergency and I contacted her a few hours before I was due over. I know she has children and I get on great with them, and them with me so its not an issue with the children. Its the regular cancelling of arrangements that bugs me. Anyway I am due to go down tomorrow evening so hopefully she won't cancel.