3 Best men????

The Witches Cat

Hi.
Im getting married next year and i have 3 older brothers. I love each of them dearly and just dont want to have to choose one as best man.
I would really love to have the 3 of them stand with me at the wedding and also look forward to hearing what they say in there speeches.
Would it be ok to have the 3 of them as best man or is that just not done.
Any help much appreciated
Thanks

Nervous Wreck

It's your wedding, have as many as you'd like. If you're gonna pay for 100 people's dinner, they can indulge you that much!

Citygirl1

Just remember that you need one of them to sign the register, and be the legal witness to your marriage. Suggest you pick the eldest for this small (but important!) job - it's the most diplomatic!

pooch90

Or pick a parent to sign register, we got both our mams to sign. Was a nice way to include them in the ceremony. Was at a wedding with 3 best men, it dragged the speeches out so much but their speeches were full of in jokes and nobody really got them.

The Witches Cat

pooch90 wrote: »

Or pick a parent to sign register, we got both our mams to sign. Was a nice way to include them in the ceremony. Was at a wedding with 3 best men, it dragged the speeches out so much but their speeches were full of in jokes and nobody really got them.

And did the guests think it strange that there were 3 best men or did they just accept it.
Thanks

Faith

Surely if they're all equal, they'd just all be groomsmen and you'd have no defined best man?

I'm a bridesmaid to a bride who has several bridesmaids but no maid of honour, as she didn't want to pick one person.

jlm29

I doubt anyone would even notice really, people would probably just assume it was a best man and two groomsmen. If you have a booklet for your Ceremony, you probably would describe everyone's role, but I can't see it making much difference. Obviously, only one can sign the register. I also would make sure there's not three long winded speeches, especially if they're before dinner. I can imagine that would be a bit irksome!!!

pooch90

The Witches Cat wrote: »

And did the guests think it strange that there were 3 best men or did they just accept it.
Thanks

We all thought it was sweet when we saw it in the booklet but then the murmur of "Oh god, I hope there won't be three speeches" started. If the brothers can keep it short and you prep them on topics to be covered (eg say the BMs were great or whatever) so there's no repetition then you'll be ok. I wish I'd done that prep bit, soo much repeated in our speeches. I think the photographers and videographer were thanked 8 times

Tom Mann Centuria

As has been said, it's your wedding op, do what you want to. I had my sister as best "person", so each to their own.

SpillingTheTea

My Fiance is picking his two best friends to be his best men because he literally cannot leave either of them out. I don't think there is anything wrong with it. As the poster said above, you only need one to be the legal witness, but it's grand

pullandbang

There are no rules.....our son has chosen his sister to be "Best Man"