She dumped me, and she updates her relationship status with another guy the same

sollyv

[font=Verdana, Arial, sans-serif]So, when my ex broke up with me, she vaguely just said "things have not been the same anymore, and I have been going through a lot recently". She deleted me on facebook, and wouldn't really communicate with me at all.[/font]

[font=Verdana, Arial, sans-serif]2 weeks later, I'm on her facebook profile and I look at some of the guys liking her photos. I look at his profile, and see his relationship status. He is in a relationship with my ex, since the same exact day she broke it off with me, according to his facebook status.[/font]

[font=Verdana, Arial, sans-serif]Now, I kept that to myself for a while. Couple of months go by, they break up. We start talking again. After a little argument, I lose my **** and tell her about how I know that she dumped me for this guy.[/font]

[font=Verdana, Arial, sans-serif]First thing she says "no I didn't leave you for x wtf"[/font]

[font=Verdana, Arial, sans-serif]To which I respond with the facebook evidence, and how she was in a relationship with him since the same exact date she broke it off with me.[/font]

[font=Verdana, Arial, sans-serif]She then just says "Woah that's my personal life, and he cheated on me so I don't like talking about it"[/font]

[font=Verdana, Arial, sans-serif]After I tell her that I would fully forgive her for everything, and how I apologised for snooping around her facebook, she just says "I can't do this anymore. I can't trust you. Sorry"[/font]

[font=Verdana, Arial, sans-serif]So we said goodbye to eachother.[/font]

[font=Verdana, Arial, sans-serif]Now my question: Is there a possibility that I was wrong about the fact that she dumped me for this other fella?[/font]

Afroshack

Forgive her for what exactly? She broke up with you and started going out with someone else.

She doesnt owe you anything.

punisher5112

Cheater got cheated on by the sounds of it.

Best of away from a fool like that.

Don't bother with her.

Dial Hard

sollyv wrote:

Now my question: Is there a possibility that I was wrong about the fact that she dumped me for this other fella?

After all the drama you described, does it even matter???

Jurgen Klopp

Hahaha karma, gotta love it.

Look she left you for this fella and was cheating on you too for a bit if they were relationship material on the day she dumped you, then got a right shock that she was copped when she came crawling back for attention and tries to make you feel bad.

She'll no doubt text you soon saying she's had a think and can "forgive you" for what you've done, which is nothing

Don't be a fool and forgive her, if you get back with her your an absolute eejit

Big Bag of Chips

I hope you're a teenager. A young teenager at that. How long would you have to be seeing someone before good change your status to 'in a relationship'? Would you do it the very day you met someone? And if she had just finished with her boyfriend and you'd never been with her before that day?

Of course not.

She cheated on you with this fella. She broke it off with you to be with him. You told her you know, and she didn't deny it. She just said she didn't want to talk about it because he cheated on her. I think you need to move on and find a different girl to be interested in. This one has told you twice now that she's not interested in anything with you. Block her on Facebook so that you won't be tempted to look her up and find another girl who is interested.

By the way, Facebook is hardly personal or private. If she has something up publicly then she can't act all offended when you mention it.

Just block her. She's a headwrecker and will continue to wreck your head for as long as you keep chasing her around.

Ursus Horribilis

I'm sure she was delighted to see you were still creeping on her Facebook after the relationship had ended and were fully up to date with the goings on there. You don't think you sound a bit like a stalker, no? I hope she has had the sense to block you. The relationship is over and you really shouldn't be looking back into the past like this. It's not healthy.

Jurgen Klopp

Ursus Horribilis wrote: »

I'm sure she was delighted to see you were still creeping on her Facebook after the relationship had ended and were fully up to date with the goings on there. You don't think you sound a bit like a stalker, no? I hope she has had the sense to block you. The relationship is over and you're a bigger fool if you're still raking over the coals of what went before.

Jaysus if looking up an exes Facebook especially just after a relationship has ended is stalker material I'd say 50% of the country are stalkers

JJayoo

Cut all contact with her

Ursus Horribilis

Jurgen Klopp wrote: »

Jaysus if looking up an exes Facebook especially just after a relationship has ended is stalker material I'd say 50% of the country are stalkers

They're now broken up a few months by the looks of things. He needs to get over this instead of obsessing over who did what and when.

LegacyUser

She broke up with you with a very poor excuse. She had another man lined up. She could have cheated on you or decided Mr Wonderful was a better bet.
Now a few months later her and Mr Wonderful broke up as Mr Wonderful cheated on her.

Take the advice you have been given here and stay away from her as she won't change. She could be happy to have you back but you deserve more.

I would agree with another poster here that if you dont want people to know things dont post on fb. I would also agree with a post of that if looking up an exes Facebook especially just after a relationship has ended is stalker material I'd say 50% of the country are stalkers.

The best story I heard of Karma is one a friend of mine told me.

A few years ago this lady called Mary wanted a realtionship with a man called John. John was quite happy to have Mary on standby between girlfriends. John then met this woman and blocked Mary on fb. He then told a few people they both know that Mary was bunny bolier and she could not accept he did not want a realtionship with her.
Mary did not block him on fb or bad mouth him either.

A few months ago Mary heard that John and this lady were living together. She had a baby. John is a pale Irish man and his girlfriend is the same colour as Leo Varadkar but the baby is the colour of Usain Bolt.

December2012

You're acting like a creep. You broke up. That's the end of it.

You shouldn't be looking at her Facebook pictures or clicking into who's liking them.

You shouldn't have evidence of her being "in a relationship". That's not on.

Stop looking for attention from her and move on.

SB_Part2

December2012 wrote: »

You're acting like a creep. You broke up. That's the end of it.

You shouldn't be looking at her Facebook pictures or clicking into who's liking them.

You shouldn't have evidence of her being "in a relationship". That's not on.

Stop looking for attention from her and move on.

I think this is a bit harsh. I don't know anyone who hasn't looked up their ex on FB.

osarusan

sollyv wrote: »

Now my question: Is there a possibility that I was wrong about the fact that she dumped me for this other fella?

It's possible that you were wrong.

It's possible that the other guy changed the FB setting without her knowing.

It's also possible (and more likely I'd say) that she is lying.

Either way - I wonder why it makes a difference to you. She is not part of your life, and you could consider yourself better off that way.

batmanrobin

To check an ex's FB page two weeks after breaking up is not stalkerish nor does it make you a creep. I'd say a good 90% of FB users do it. Hell people do it months and years later. Its a curosity thing. And if course you're going to be checking it after a break up, you're missing the person and want to know what's going on. You're in good company in that regard.

However, she doesn't sound like someone you should be bothering with. She came crawling back after it ended with this guy. Leave her in the past, block her, and try to forget about her. She's not worth the headache. Do yourself a favour and don't check her social media, it's like pulling at a scab, it never heals.

Big Bag of Chips

Yeah to put it in to perspective, she cheated on you with him. Then she started going out with him. Then he cheated on her so she came back to you. If they hadn't of broken up she wouldn't have contacted you again. You're not her choice, you're her option. And at that she wants you to feel bad and tells you she can't trust you, even though she cheated on you! She is in complete control of when and how and if you two have any sort of relationship. That's not right.

SB_Part2

SB_Part2 wrote: »

I think this is a bit harsh. I don't know anyone who hasn't looked up their ex on FB.

True but did they also do this?

sollyv wrote: »

I look at his profile, and see his relationship status. He is in a relationship with my ex, since the same exact day she broke it off with me, according to his facebook status

I kept that to myself for a while. Couple of months go by, they break up. We start talking again. After a little argument, I lose my **** and tell her about how I know that she dumped me for this guy.

First thing she says "no I didn't leave you for x wtf"

To which I respond with the facebook evidence, and how she was in a relationship with him since the same exact date she broke it off with me.

She then just says "Woah that's my personal life, and he cheated on me so I don't like talking about it"

After I tell her that I would fully forgive her for everything, and how I apologised for snooping around her facebook, she just says "I can't do this anymore. I can't trust you. Sorry"

Do people really think that some randomer updating their status on Facebook is hard evidence that someone was cheating? You know you can update a relationship status and put in whatever date you want, right?

elefant

December2012 wrote: »

You're acting like a creep. You broke up. That's the end of it.

You shouldn't be looking at her Facebook pictures or clicking into who's liking them.

You shouldn't have evidence of her being "in a relationship". That's not on.

Stop looking for attention from her and move on.

I'm not sure what planet you're living on, but it's a different one to the vast majority of the population I'd wager. Looking at an ex's facebook 2 weeks after breaking up doesn't make someone a 'creep'.

Weird amount of blame directed at the OP in this thread. She was going out with someone else the day they broke up, and it's OP's fault for finding out on FB?

The only thing that you're to blame for, OP, is not telling her to shove it when she tried to make you feel bad about the whole scenario.

Neyite

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Greencap your post was deleted - PUA material is forbidden sitewide. I strongly suggest that you read the charter and get a feel for what's acceptable on this forum before posting because your posts are falling short of an acceptable standard here.

greencap

Neyite wrote: »

Mod:

Greencap your post was deleted - PUA material is forbidden sitewide. I strongly suggest that you read the charter and get a feel for what's acceptable on this forum before posting because your posts are falling short of an acceptable standard here.

Black Philip show isn't pickup nonsense.

Neyite

greencap wrote: »

Black Philip show isn't pickup nonsense.

I said, read the charter.

Then you'd know that it's against the rules to argue on thread with a moderator. And you'd know that you-tube recommendations are forbidden.

SB_Part2

Deleted User wrote: »

True but did they also do this?



Do people really think that some randomer updating their status on Facebook is hard evidence that someone was cheating? You know you can update a relationship status and put in whatever date you want, right?

Eh if that person updated their RELATIONSHIP STATUS the same day as they broke up then yes.

SB_Part2

SB_Part2 wrote: »

Eh if that person updated their RELATIONSHIP STATUS the same day as they broke up then yes.

SHE didn't update anything for crying out loud! The GUY she was dating did and he can put whatever date he wants! For all we know he's f'cking with the OP!

dmm82

[Deleted User] wrote: »

SHE didn't update anything for crying out loud! The GUY she was dating did and he can put whatever date he wants! For all we know he's f'cking with the OP!

That is true but for her name to be tagged in the relationship status she has to accept/ approve it

dmm82

dmm82 wrote: »

That is true but for her name to be tagged in the relationship status she has to accept/ approve it

Yes but he can still put whatever date he wants on it.

Big Bag of Chips

It sounds like the OP doesn't know this fella. So suggesting this fella got with OP's ex girlfriend at a later date than their break up and went to the trouble of finding out the exact date of their break up and then entered that date on his status just to annoy the OP is a bit far fetched and convoluted!

Quite often the simplest explanation is the truth.

Dial Hard

I have to say, all of this brings us back to:

Dial Hard wrote: »

After all the drama you described, does it even matter???

She's your ex. What does it matter how you got there or who moved on first or any of it

up for anything

I'm not sure where the cast iron proof is that she was cheating on you. Perhaps herself and the other chap were attracted but did nothing about it till she'd finished with you. He didn't update his relationship status before she finished with you.

professore

My take is she cheated on the new guy and he dumped her. If the new guy was such a player he wouldn't be broadcasting his relationship status to all and sundry on Facebook - sounds like he was delighted with life to be going out with her. Anyway you are well rid OP.

fergus1001

December2012 wrote:

You shouldn't have evidence of her being "in a relationship". That's not on.

So people should ignore clear evidence of something being done to you that people willingly posted in a public forum ??

Grand OP based on decembers input ignore the evidence and go crawl back to her to be made a fool of again