Evening part -how much?

Midnight Sundance

Hi all, I know this is another one of those threads but was wondering if you could give me a general consensus on what most people would give if they are invited to the evening part of a wedding. (As a couple)
100? I usually go to the full part of a wedding and normally give 150/200 depending on the person. Was invited to evening part so don't want to come across as a scab but also stoney broke so don't wanna break the bank either. Have a load of weddings this year .

autumnbelle

I wouldnt give anything or maybe a gift like a frame or something

Atomic Pineapple

I won't be expecting anything from any of our evening guests, I don't think anyone would expect anything, if you would like to give something a small gift would easily suffice I'd imagine.

jlm29

€100 way too much, unless you're close to the person. I've been to a couple of weddings recently where the b&g had immediate family only at the ceremony, and then a big party- I see that as slightly different to being invited to an after when there was a big crowd for a full day.
If invited to an afters where there was a traditional "big day" that you weren't asked to, a small gift is fine, or else a voucher for a restaurant or a local shop.
you could also chip in with others, if for e.g. You've been asked with a group of colleagues.

baby and crumble

I agree with others who are saying don't worry too much about a gift. €100 is way too much. I know people say to "cover the costs" or your invite etc when you're going for the whole day but if you subscribe to that line of thinking, most evening invites don't cost the couple a thing. I know ours aren't. Something small like a piece of art (if you know they'll like it!) or a voucher to a restaurant for a meal when the craziness dies down would be lovely. Or tickets to a play or something.

Midnight Sundance

THANKS for the replies !! I'm after getting a voucher for a restaurant that hopefully can be enjoyed when they are back From honeymoon. Thanks

jellybear

Midnight Sundance wrote: »

THANKS for the replies !! I'm after getting a voucher for a restaurant that hopefully can be enjoyed when they are back From honeymoon. Thanks

That's a great idea and something they'll look forward to using after the honeymoon

Kate253

[quote= I've been to a couple of weddings recently where the b&g had immediate family only at the ceremony, and then a big party- I see that as slightly different to being invited to an after when there was a big crowd for a full day[/quote]

I'm just curious. How? We are planning just that, 60 for main afternoon event, ceremony and meal, and another 80 to a party that eve with a bbq. We're not expecting those coming to the party to bring gifts as it's similar to an afters and it's a bbq on offer, self service and not a 4/5 course sit down meal.

GingerLily

Kate253 wrote: »

[quote= I've been to a couple of weddings recently where the b&g had immediate family only at the ceremony, and then a big party- I see that as slightly different to being invited to an after when there was a big crowd for a full day

I'm just curious. How? We are planning just that, 60 for main afternoon event, ceremony and meal, and another 80 to a party that eve with a bbq. We're not expecting those coming to the party to bring gifts as it's similar to an afters and it's a bbq on offer, self service and not a 4/5 course sit down meal.[/quote]

I've been to an evening wedding that was in a 5 star hotel where the evening guests were given very generous delicious buffet and ample wine (at least half a bottle per person) and a toast drink for the speeches. The couple didn't expect gifts from the evening invites but they were more then generous to their guests.
I'd consider that very different to an after's invite where you arrive after dinner for the band and a couple of goujons!

jlm29

GingerLily wrote: »

I've been to an evening wedding that was in a 5 star hotel where the evening guests were given very generous delicious buffet and ample wine (at least half a bottle per person) and a toast drink for the speeches. The couple didn't expect gifts from the evening invites but they were more then generous to their guests.
I'd consider that very different to an after's invite where you arrive after dinner for the band and a couple of goujons!

I think there's a difference between being asked to an afters, where you're slipping in at 9.30, trying to find somewhere to park yourself among the 200 people who've been out since lunchtime, and going up at 11 o clock for a paper plate of sandwiches and cocktail sausages, to arriving at 8pm with the vast majority of other guests, being given a table to sit at, and getting half decent food at a semi reasonable hour.
I suppose they're the key differences (in my head) between "an afters" invite and "a wedding party" invite. That said, they wedding parties I've been at, there's literally been a handful of people at the actual ceremony/sit down meal.

73trix

jlm29 wrote: »

I think there's a difference between being asked to an afters, where you're slipping in at 9.30, trying to find somewhere to park yourself among the 200 people who've been out since lunchtime, and going up at 11 o clock for a paper plate of sandwiches and cocktail sausages, to arriving at 8pm with the vast majority of other guests, being given a table to sit at, and getting half decent food at a semi reasonable hour.
I suppose they're the key differences (in my head) between "an afters" invite and "a wedding party" invite. That said, they wedding parties I've been at, there's literally been a handful of people at the actual ceremony/sit down meal.

We are planning a bubbles drinks reception and bbq for the evening party and there will be music. Party to start 7/8. I'm still not convinced people should bring presents. It's definitely not going to be a fancy buffet. We are aiming for a casual gathering.

Kate253

sounds like our plan. What way are you doing your food? how many people in your evening part?

73trix

Kate253 wrote: »

sounds like our plan. What way are you doing your food? how many people in your evening part?

30 for wedding and 70 odd for evening do. Bbq. So bbq for up to 100. I'm sure some people will happily eat again at 7/8.