Wedding gift registry

baby and crumble

Ok, having spoken to lots of couples who've gotten married recently, and having thought about it from a guest perspective, we've pretty much decided to have a wedding gift registry that we can supply to people who ask for it, or who we know would like to buy us a gift. We won't be including details of the list anywhere with invites etc, but the wedding party will be given details, as will parents etc so when people ask there's somewhere they can be directed.

As much as i would prefer not to ask for specific things, I know if I was a guest and I knew there was a gift registry that I could buy something from, and I knew it was something they wanted, I'd be delighted. I know it's something that some people say is tacky, etc., and that's cool. Each to their own, and tbh I slightly cringe when thinking about asking for particular things, but it's the best option for our situation. In particular we want to make sure we have lots of options under €50, as I know a good few of our guests aren't making huge money and I don't want anyone under pressure to put X in an envelope, when I'd much rather they got us the random cool bottle opener from IKEA (for example) for €10 that we'll use and love.

Has anyone else used any particular service they'd recommend? We were looking at the Arnotts one but they've change the way they do it in recent months. Instead of people actually buying physical items, they just think they are, then you cash in the amount total that people have spent and you get an Arnotts gift card to that amount. That seems AWFUL to me, so we're not using them.

We'd like to be able to have stuff from a few different shops, so we can make sure there's stuff at all price levels.

I know I can't demand a certain type of response to a post on Boards, but I'd really like to avoid the "eww, asking for presents is gross and tacky!" responses. No matter what we say, people are going to give us gifts and this way I'd like to think we're just giving people options rather than put money in an envelope and feel pressure to put a certain amount in.

GingerLily

Registering for gifts isn't that common over here yet so I think you're right to keep it more subtly advertised!

I can't recommend anyone here but I know for a UK friends wedding that the dinner service sets were all broken up so guests could just purchase a set of forks or side plates, or half a set etc. So there was really an item for every budget!

baby and crumble

GingerLily wrote: »

Registering for gifts isn't that common over here yet so I think you're right to keep it more subtly advertised!

I can't recommend anyone here but I know for a UK friends wedding that the dinner service sets were all broken up so guests could just purchase a set of forks or side plates, or half a set etc. So there was really an item for every budget!

That's exactly our plan. Have loads of things for all budgets, I just want to give people options.

Sherlof3

We had ours with Brown Thomas it was great - only downside is that you have to buy things at the full price (unless it has been changed) you can't benefit from sales or anything - which you can with Arnotts. Not many places do them here but I would recommend Arnotts. You can still choose all of the items you put down on the list, and with all lists you have the ability to reallocate funds. In the end we only did that for one or two items that we recieved in the real world, I still wanted to have the kettle from x person or the cheeseboard from y person.

baby and crumble

Sherlof3 wrote: »

. Not many places do them here but I would recommend Arnotts. You can still choose all of the items you put down on the list, and with all lists you have the ability to reallocate funds. In the end we only did that for one or two items that we recieved in the real world, I still wanted to have the kettle from x person or the cheeseboard from y person.

It doesn't work like that anymore, even though the website says it does- we were chatting with them over the weekend. You make your list, people click "buy" something and they think they've bought you it, then all that happens is they tot up the amount of value of what people have bought and then give you a gift card to that amount. You then have to go in and buy everything yourself, and if something is gone out of stock or something then tough. I just think that's a bit naff myself.

We have looked at the BT one, but I don't know how much variance in price ranges there is there. They also wouldn't have loads of stuff we'd really want. Arnotts would have been far more practical but there you go!

Sherlof3

baby and crumble wrote: »

It doesn't work like that anymore, even though the website says it does- we were chatting with them over the weekend. You make your list, people click "buy" something and they think they've bought you it, then all that happens is they tot up the amount of value of what people have bought and then give you a gift card to that amount. You then have to go in and buy everything yourself, and if something is gone out of stock or something then tough. I just think that's a bit naff myself.

We have looked at the BT one, but I don't know how much variance in price ranges there is there. They also wouldn't have loads of stuff we'd really want. Arnotts would have been far more practical but there you go!

Arnotts is definetely more practical and is better value IMHO, especially when it comes to homewares. I do love all our stuff though and it was very exciting when it arrived as we only got a handful of other presents.

Plankton1

I came across a crowd called The Wedding Shop at a fair, they have a massive (I mean tens of thousands of products) registry and you can donate to 'honeymoon fund' or whatever through it too. Their office is on Clare St but it's mostly online

Sherlof3

Plankton1 wrote: »

I came across a crowd called The Wedding Shop at a fair, they have a massive (I mean tens of thousands of products) registry and you can donate to 'honeymoon fund' or whatever through it too. Their office is on Clare St but it's mostly online

They are the same people who do the weddings lists in Brown Thomas