How would you feel if your other half told you to go out with your friends?

MaryMak39

We were talking about going out earlier and My OH told me to worry about him and that He encourages me go out with my friends whenever I want (I don't go out drinking all that often) I'm confused as to why..

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

He doesn't want to be your only friend and you could be too clingy

hatrickpatrick

I'd be that kind of guy myself to be honest. Losing friends during in a relationship due to lack of contact is toxic in so many ways - for your relationship, for your mental health, etc.

One of the biggest alarm bells for me in a relationship is if a woman tries to minimise or disrupt my non-relationship life. It shows an unhealthy attitude to what exactly a relationship is supposed to be, in my view.

odyssey06

When were ye last out together?
When was he last out?

If the above was just recently then maybe he just needs some recovery time. Or wanted to watch the football

If its been a while, suggests something up...

PirateShampoo

Probably just wants to have a tug in peace.

osarusan

Because he wants you to enjoy yourself with your friends?

Have you been sitting round a lot at home recently or anything?

One eyed Jack

MaryMak39 wrote: »

We were talking about going out earlier and My OH told me to worry about him and that He encourages me go out with my friends whenever I want (I don't go out drinking all that often) I'm confused as to why..

Why do you think it might be yourself? Have you asked your OH why he would suggest it if you don't go out much anyway?

I know from my own perspective my wife doesn't go out much but I always try and encourage her to get dressed up and go out and meet her friends, she sometimes isn't bothered but she always feels better for it.

I go out with my friends fairly regularly, it's normal socialising for a lot of people. I get that other people may feel differently, but if you're sitting at home all day and not getting out much, even meeting people for a coffee and a chat, it's not good for your mental health IMO.

MaryMak39

I go out when I can but not as much as him. Don't drink but so enjoy it. Work and college currently in the way. But I could go months without a night out, hence why I think he's hinting at something

whoopsadoodles

MaryMak39 wrote: »

I go out when I can but not as much as him. Don't drink but so enjoy it. Work and college currently in the way. But I could go months without a night out, hence why I think he's hinting at something

Do you ever suggest he doesn't go out with his friends or ever guilt trip him when he does?

One eyed Jack

MaryMak39 wrote: »

I go out when I can but not as much as him. Don't drink but so enjoy it. Work and college currently in the way. But I could go months without a night out, hence why I think he's hinting at something

He's telling you directly that you should go out, probably because he sees how hard you work.

Have you any other reason to think he's hinting at anything else?

Hannibal_Smith

Do you socialise with other people at all?

vicwatson

Maybe he wants to get his girlfriend in while you are out?

Armchair Andy

Take it PI jaysus.

somesoldiers

I'm forever encouraging my OH to go out with her friends, helps me build up credits for when I want to go out

myshirt

Now I don't really like Kevin Hart, but from 2:21 in this is your answer op

https://youtu.be/f1TpMeFpgi4

Jack the Stripper

somesoldiers wrote: »

I'm forever encouraging my OH to go out with her friends, helps me build up credits for when I want to go out

I pity you.

ectoraige

How would I feel? I'd feel she's taking the piss out of me, since she knows I don't have friends anymore.

Beyondgone

I'd wonder why she wanted me out of the house.. who or what is she up to?? She never wants me to go out...why now?? Suspicious..

Noveight

I encourage the missus to meet up with her friends as often as possible. Good people are hard to come by these days and decent friends are worth minding. Being 100% stuck to each other is unhealthy too.

You've literally nothing to worry about.