Sequel for 'Am I Wrong? Is this insult????'

maki2011

Thanks for all the replies. But I really need to say something for myself!

Firstly, if i said on purpose from my heart, i won't bother here, and won't feel grievance,devastated and won't care what he thinks about me anymore!

Secondly, I think I need to put these into the context! After he suggested FWB, I refused politely; said FWB doesn’t work for me! At this stage the whole thing should be end up due to our different aims, move on with good memories (we really had 10 perfect dates) …. But he chase ask the reason, chased asking why not!! He even asked me he ugly?? So I replied back those two texts without thinking! If he didn’t chased asking why, is he ugly.. (Can you guys imagine, If you, how you reply back???) I definitely won’t say that! And i always think even i said that, he should know i just say with sad with anger, but i didn't mean it, because If he is that bad, I won’t like him at all!! only he knows himself how deeply I trust and like him. And is he choose to give up this ‘relationship’, not me!

Because of these, when he said I insult him I malicious, I want cry, I feel injustice/grievance; I feel my world collapse, devastated! I really didn’t say that on purpose, and I never think anything about revenge/retaliate! Because I don’t like fight, I don’t like confrontation…

I don’t know why some of you said his suggestion FWB is fair. Is FWB that common in Ireland??? From my personal perspective, I think that’s the worst hurt/insult! Because seems except physical-my body, I don’t have anything else worth him to like… I think these are much more hurtful than the judgement of appearance.
(In other word, I still don’t think bald, belly, these superficial things are big deal! If somebody judges my appearance I won’t mad at all…

And In my culture usually after dated 2 or 3 times, we admit relationship first, and then developing, but this doesn’t mean it must works!!! If it not works, that’s fine, broke up friendly, move on…. But in Ireland, seem people dated for ages before ‘official’?? Consider it’s in Ireland, I have made ‘effort’ , changed my view, dated him 10 times without any conversation about this, and actually in our 10th date, this was brought up not on plan, just in accident... in some way, this make me feel 'regret', thought if we didn't have that exclusive conversation, we still together now, give him more time to know me...

Anyway, thanks again for all the replies, I accept the criticism… (But some criticism really cruel, really hurtful!!!) I will notice in the future, avoid saying anything about people’s appearances!

ellie1

I totally get your point.

It is offensive for someone to say I don't want to be in a relationship with you but sure you have a great body and I do want to continue having sex with you.

That is insulting and offensive. I don't blame you for what you said. It was said with anger and sadness and is totally understandable.

He insulted you, you insulted him.

he failed to see how you would culturally find it offensive and he got highly offended as Irish people are about fat and weight etc but for some reason have no problem with men suggesting to women that she might be flattered to meet up and **** and cuddle after!!! Yes, bizarre behavior from him.!!!!

Neyite

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Posters should only have one PI open on the same topic at a time so I'll shut this and let you continue on your old thread.