Still questioning and it's getting me down

LegacyUser

I've been questioning my sexual orientation. It's really getting me down. I'm a woman and I believe I'm straight.

Here are some reasons why I think I might be lesbian:

As I said above, I believe I'm straight but others think I'm a lesbian.
I've figured out why they think that- I check out women.
It seems as if I like what I'm seeing- going by the look in my eyes. My pupils dilate. I have a negative view of my own body and self in general and compare myself to others.
I get nervous around women- I find some of them bitchy.
I am bit reserved/quiet.

Reasons why I think I'm straight:
I've only been with men and I've been happy. Short term only... but still.
I've got all the body reactions that I should have been getting
My thoughts romantic and otherwise have only been about men.
I like male attention.
I like male company in general- they make me feel relaxed. I like the balance they bring.


Other:
I dress femininely-not butch.

I haven't been very adventurous, shall we say, with men. More through fear of being hurt/rejected after the act.

For some reason, I look for a father figure.

Can anyone shed some light on that? Thanks in advance...

Annasopra

If you think you are straight I don't any issue at all.

Vojera

It's very easy to say "Are you attracted to women, yes or no?" and take that at face value, but you must be a little unsure yourself if you're taking people's opinions to heart on this matter; if you were absolutely certain that you have no attraction to women then wouldn't you just brush it off? That would be my opinion anyway.

If it's causing you distress, try asking yourself if you do feel some attraction to women that's making you question yourself. Maybe you do, maybe you don't. You could be bisexual rather than a lesbian. Or maybe you're straight after all and your head is just melted because people are making assumptions about you that aren't true.

You might be interested in the Kinsey Scale, which is a way some people like to measure sexuality. Rather than categorising people as straight/bi/gay it's a little more nuanced and allows for the fact that someone can be "mostly straight" but have the odd attraction to someone of the same sex now and again, or vice versa. Perhaps that's relevant to you, perhaps not.

TheYoungWan

You're most definitely bicurious, would you consider going to a lesbian social meet up? I'm involved a few groups so feel free to ask any questions you might have!
You're not alone in feeling this way

RagsOBrien

Hmmm.....have you ever had a crush or had sexual thoughts about a woman? If not then I think you could be straight. I am not sure why would you question it if you've never thought women in that way?

baby and crumble

Op, I'm fairly sure you've started multiple threads in here and PI on the topic. Please only keep one open and look at the responses given.