Too young for the Boilerhouse?

TheFitz13

Hi,

Firstly, I apologise if there have been many threads on this topic.. Mods feel free to delete if necessary.

I'm an 18 year old lad who just recently found out about the boilerhouse. I feel like I would have an interest in going, but would It be a good idea for a person of my age to go?

Also, what is the clientele like? Like are people pushy about having fun with you? Would I be seen as a target for older guys since I'm basically just out of the womb?

Any advice is greatly welcomed!

LLMMLL

TheFitz13 wrote: »

Hi,

Firstly, I apologise if there have been many threads on this topic.. Mods feel free to delete if necessary.

I'm an 18 year old lad who just recently found out about the boilerhouse. I feel like I would have an interest in going, but would It be a good idea for a person of my age to go?

Also, what is the clientele like? Like are people pushy about having fun with you? Would I be seen as a target for older guys since I'm basically just out of the womb?

Any advice is greatly welcomed!

Well since you're 18 you're obviously gorgeous. There are no ugly 18 year olds. And all older men are predators who cannot control themselves around stunning 18 year olds like yourself. So they'll probably end up tearing you apart and feasting on your insides ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

TheFitz13

LLMMLL wrote: »

Well since you're 18 you're obviously gorgeous. There are no ugly 18 year olds. And all older men are predators who cannot control themselves around stunning 18 year olds like yourself. So they'll probably end up tearing you apart and feasting on your insides ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

I would definitely not classify myself as gourgous lol. And I never said that older men are predators, sorry if it came across that way to anyone, I'm just kinda nervous that's all.

ongarboy

I would suggest you go sober so that you have your full wits and observation skills about you (maybe before midnight on a Friday or Saturday night when you'll have decent numbers but at the same time not enduring all the drunks - who may normally be fine but may get aggressive with drink on them - and/or internalised homophobic closet cases -  falling out of the pubs and clubs).  The vast majority of clientele that visit there will be exactly like you - ie not out to cause trouble, won't be pushy and totally respectful of others boundaries.  However, there will be a very small minority that can take advantage (particularly when drinks or drugs are taken) so it is those that you need to be aware of (and they can be of any age).

reason vs religion

TheFitz13 wrote: »

I would definitely not classify myself as gourgous lol. And I never said that older men are predators, sorry if it came across that way to anyone, I'm just kinda nervous that's all.

LLMMLL has some chip on his shoulder about this stuff. I advised someone before to go on Tinder rather than Grindr when they're starting because they'll attract the lewd attention of a lot of middle-aged on Grindr. Despite others agreeing (it's a pretty unrefutable point!) he had a rant or two about how middle-aged men are people too and have their sexual needs, etc, finding no issue with crudely sending dick pics as introduction to guys thirty years younger. Totally understandable that you're nervous. No need to apologise.

If you go at eighteen to the Boiler House you'll probably be the only one who is that young and the large majority of people will be over thirty. You won't be in physical danger at all, but you may be quite in demand. Don't expect to be able to keep your head down and go unnoticed!

TheFitz13

Thanks so much for all the responses! I don't mind older men actually, If I'm attracted to someone then it doesn't matter about their age!

LLMMLL

Yup I do have a chip on my shoulder about older men being characterised as predators. All my friends are early 30s and only one is into young guys, and even then its usually early 20s more than 18 year olds. I don't think that as we get into our 40s and 50s were all going to magically find 18 year olds super attractive.

And I get far more dick pics on Grindr from guys in their 20s than in their 40s/50s. Why is it lewd when an older guy does it?

Anyway OP, I was using exaggeration in my earlier post to highlight that your attitude to older guys is a bit unfair. To answer your question, depending on how attractive you are , you'll get some attention. Some of that ranges from people talking to you when you don't really want them to, to people grabbing your cock through your towel. They may be old, they may be young. If that makes.you very uncomfortable it.may be best to avoid the place.

Annasopra

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Can we keep the personal disagreements out of the discussion please and stay on topic.

Manion

Having random sex with strangers in a gay sauna may not be a great idea for you. This type of activity is oftentimes glorified in the gay community. When I was your age and in college I found there was almost an expectation to be highly promiscuous. Be careful about going down this road, it will shape your future expectations and may become a defining aspect of your sexuality. So yes, you might very well be too young for this.

baby and crumble

The way I look at it, if you're asking the question you're probably not ready for it. There must be some doubt in your mind.

And please, OP, don't go there to loose your virginity. You'll most likely regret it later in life.

imme

It would seem to be up to you OP.

What are you looking for, if you're looking for sex well you're probably guaranteed that.
Isn't that what it's for.

Sex is also available outside of an environment like a sex sauna.

The choice is probably up to you.

The question of safe sex and consent is also yours.

TheFitz13

Thanks for all the responses. I've thought about it and I kinda think it's not the type of place I'd see myself in, kinda seems like a bit of a waste of money!

LLMMLL

Well in fairness to the BH, there's usually a good mix on a Saturday night and you're far more likely to get laid than the hours that can be spent trawling Grindr. You don't have to send endless pics ("u got more pics?", "More pics please?") Only to be eventually told you're too far even though you're only a few hundred metres away. Also you may get off on the highly sexualized atmosphere.

One poster said something along the lines of "if.you have doubts then probably shouldn't to". I'd say the opposite. If you're curious you should probably check it out.

Manion

Would you say the same about PnP?

No one will take more responsibility or care more about your sexual and mental health than you. Do not assume people with HIV will be upfront about it on hook up apps or that they avoid saunas. Do not assume that HIV is worst thing that can happen. Do not assume that because you're in a premises that if something happens that you don't want to happen, that management will do anything.

• Ask yourself are you OK picking up an STI? Most are very treatable, but how would you feel.
• Ask yourself are you OK with having detached, transactional sex with people you don't know.

Some people really like the idea of the above and understand the risks involved, it's their kink. Others end up experiencing sex like this because they feel they have no choice. Some simply started off this way and know no other way to be with another man. I know an older gay couple who still cruise public parks for sex. I'm very thankful I was born into a generation where that wasn't the norm.

Anyway, that's going to sound a bit puritanical. I did lots of silly stuff when I was your age, in ways it's what you're suppose to do, you just need to be a smart about it and make your own choices as opposed to letting either other people or circumstances make your decisions for you. Both can more readily be changes than the consequences.