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Changing secondary schools for 5th year

  • 27-03-2017 10:39pm
    #1
    Abcdefghijklmn
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1 ✭


    I am currently in TY in an all girls school which I hate. The girls that I've been friends with since primary school have started ignoring me and not talking to me. (nothing happened, no fights or disagreements or anything) I'm finding everyday a struggle and I'm just miserable. It's been happening for about a year now and just keeps getting worse. Should I move school? The school I'd be moving to would be a mixed school about 15 minutes away. I know of lots of people there and they'd know who I am but I'm not close to them. I'd be afraid they might have a fixed thought of me and wouldn't be interested letting me into their groups in 5th year. Also, my boyfriends in that school (not the reason I chose that school it's just the only other one id be able to go to) so would they just think I'm moving for him and ignore me? What should I do? Thanks


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  • #2
    evolving_doors
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    Teacher here!
    From what I see its not unusual for primary friends to drift apart (for whatever reason...or none! ). Usually I start to notice the drift happening going into 2nd year (stuff hits the fan over the summer)... then everyone gets too busy with the JC.. then TY (presume your classes were all mixed up in TY). But it'll be pretty much down to business in 5th yr and you'll be mixed again according to subjects... so maybe you keep your cool and find new friends in new set subject classes or drift back with 1 other 2 old friends.
    By the time you leave school and go to college/work YOU get to choose what friends you want.
    If you think about it, when you were about 3 your friends were based on where your parents choose to live. Then your parents probably guided you in school as to who your friends were, so each time you got your friends by circumstance rather than personal choice.

    As regards worrying about 'what others will think' you just got to be above that (even when they're not thinking about you you'll wind up wondering and worrying about what they're thinking).
    Getting back to basics... have you done anything wrong? No ... well then you've nothing to worry about. That's on others if others want to be petty.

    I don't think anyone will give you a straight easy answer about staying or going . We've had students who left in LC who got on grand and made new friends ... then students who came in LC and made friends ...and the opposite was true also. I think it depends on your attitude, if you go with an open mind and accept that it'll take time and mistakes then you'll be fine. But keep in mind , once 5th year hits then it's down to business. Play a long game and keep your cool whichever option you choose.


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