What is this?

SATSUMA

Can anyone point me in the direction of what this may be as I'm curious...

I cancel 80% of my social plans. Once I agree to meet a friend I regret it... dread it.... then I end up getting a migraine or something so I genuinely feel awful anyway.

It's come to the point whereby I now make it known that I'm happy to "tag along" as in I may or may not join friends. It takes the pressure off and I feel free to choose at the time of the arangement if I'm happy to go. This has gone on for years.

I go to work every day, I'm never late for meetings or appointments. I don't have social issues...

I'm just wondering what I could look into? I don't have a broad name for it! I just need a start!

Any takers?

Thanks

bilbot79

Introversion

SATSUMA

I can't stand in a queue without yapping and I love public speaking giving presentations etc... does introversion still fit? I'm a mystery to myself

lilydonoghue

I'm exactly the same so looking forward to replies. I don't like making plans too far in advance because I know I'm likely to cancel.

Ann22

I feel anxious too about upcoming events and feel relief when they're cancelled. Sometimes I even go thru periods where I feel nervous all the time for nothing. The doc said I have generalised anxiety disorder. When I manage to focus on here and now and keep busy, it helps.

SATSUMA

Ann22 wrote: »

I feel anxious too about upcoming events and feel relief when they're cancelled. Sometimes I even go thru periods where I feel nervous all the time for nothing. The doc said I have generalised anxiety disorder. When I manage to focus on here and now and keep busy, it helps.

I dont have anxiety or feel nervous

JuliusCaesar

I don't think this is really a psychology forum issue. It's more of a "psycho-analyse me" question, and I only ever do that when I'm doing a full assessment of a client, asking a LOT of questions in a LOT of detail, and certainly more than you'd feel comfortable sharing on a public discussion forum.

You can ask about the process if you like, but I don't see that we can explain you to yourself, unless you go and talk with a therapist/psychologist in person.

SATSUMA

Thanks JC, was just looking for a place to start - does something like this have a name? Of course the real root of it could never be examined on this type of forum. Was just curious that's all.

Thanks

sadie9

Could it be Social Anxiety? You are comfortable in situations where you have control, or are putting on a performance. However, you are not comfortable in situations where you may have to sit and have a close conversation with someone. And you might feel there is no easy 'escape'.
In the bus queue, you can leave whenever you want. You can decide when to speak to the person beside you. You control the situation and the person is a stranger to you.
The work presentation - you have full control of the whole thing.
But going to meet a friend plus their other friend(s) you don't know...yikes, not too happy about that at all.
You say you are not anxious and don't feel nervous. However if you were forced into one of those social situations you might well feel nervous. Staying at home allows you to avoid feeling anxious or nervous.
I'm guessing of course.

Tristrams Shandied

Generally speaking, something which would impair your functioning across most areas of your life would be classed as a disorder. In terms of personality type you might be an extroverted introvert. That's how I would describe myself.