I keep self sabotaging what I do

LegacyUser

Growing up, I was always overweight. I think I remember one or two summers in my 20s where I lost some weight but it never lasted long.

In my mid 20s, I started a new fitness regime, I was obsessed with going to the gym and eating healthy. I mean I was crazily obsessed. I would feel bad if I couldn't keep up with what I was doing. I was a year into it when I had a cold and I was still going to the gym. I did however take a break for one day considering I was so good for over a year. I lost five stone. I was so skinny and looked good in my clothes.

I went back to college in my late 20s and I kept most of the weight off. I think I gained about a stone back on during a two year course.

I spent a bit of time unemployed after college and I put on most of the weight. There was a time I was able to track everything I ate using my fitness pal, I used a weighing scales to weigh all my food. I lost a bit of weight. But it was short lived. I lived at home and it was depressing at home and also out of work.

It's been like this over the past few years. My resolution for last year was to lose weight. I didn't start anything until April as I had a holiday to look forward to. I lost about two stone last year. After my holiday, I put the weight back on.

This year, it was the same resolution. I done so well in January. I lost a stone. But February, I didn't have the motivation. Well, that could be somewhat of a lie. I have the motivation, I am able to track what I eat for breakfast and lunch. Sometimes dinner as well. But towards the end of the week, I could skip dinner and eat chocolate and sweets. It's the same at the weekend. Everything goes out the window. I put on three pounds over February and these two weeks of March.

I need to stop eating crap in the evenings and weekends. How do I stop?

Airyfairy12

Dont buy the sweets and crap food so theyre not there for you to munch on in the evenings. Could you talk to a dietician about weekly meal plans and maybe a counsellor about your potential food addiction.

Big Bag of Chips

Yeah, the only way to stop is to not buy it. Try plan your weekly shop so that you don't have to run in to the shop on the way home. It's so easy when you're rushing or hungry to grab junk for a quick fix. Maybe even prepare your meals a few days in advance and freeze/refrigerate them that way you only need to reheat them rather than cook from scratch. Make a pot of soup early in the week and use that as a 'snack'.

You've proven to yourself that you can do it. So you just need to give yourself that kick up the backside to cut out the junk again.

Makapakka

You have to look at why you keep putting it back on. Are you stressed, down in the dumps, happy? Do you associate all this with food? I am in the same boat. I've learnt that I've had to start accepting myself as I am and be happy who I am inside to be able to change the outside. I've a bad relationship with food and I will probably be working on it for my life but I'm getting stronger. The stuff I love to eat (gorge on I mean ) mostly chocolate is now having negative effects on my health other than adding weight. It's giving me migraines so have cut it out. It's hard but I am getting stronger.

Try look at WHY you want to lose weight. Is it someone else telling you, is it society, or are you an unhealthy weight for your height? No matter what the reason, you have to be in the right frame of mind and want to work at it. It will not be over night (something I struggle with also) but the slower it happens, the more likely the weight will stay off!

Good luck 😊

Parchment

Look past the food and the exercise and see whats going on under it. I know it sounds airy fairy but thats what the key is - are you worried about something? are you bored?

Also you seem to be very intense about it when you do it - finding the happy medium is the way to make things sustainable. For example - going to the gym 7 times a week is crazy, unsustainable and not healthy. Why not commit to 4 days and leave it at that - its much more realistic. Being all or nothing doesnt work.

Also as posted below - you may not even need to lose weight, it could just be something you focus on. Look at being active as a way of being healthy rather than a weightloss tool and it may be come far more beneficial.