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Self Conscious/Not good enough

  • 12-03-2017 9:52am
    #1
    stressed70
    Closed Accounts Posts: 52 ✭✭


    Exactly what the title says, how do i get over feeling so self conscious in every situation & just feeling not good enough :(


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  • #2
    Ursus Horribilis
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,168 ✭✭✭Ursus Horribilis


    I remember your other thread about this. At the time people advised you to seek out counselling, do an assertiveness course and find a new job. Did you give any of those a try?

    I'm not saying the above to take a swipe at you. It's just that I'm not sure what exactly it is you're looking for. You've started a new thread with considerably less information than the previous one you did. Even if you gave us more than a one line question like you did this time, you're going to be given much the same advice. There is no magic pill that will solve your issues. You're going to have to be proactive and seek out help yourself. That's why people suggested you go for counselling, try CBT, do that assertiveness course etc. Nobody is going to pick up the phone for you. It's not going to be fun. But if you aren't prepared to put in the work to improve yourself, you're going to be stuck in the same place this time next year.


  • #3
    zoobizoo
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,746 ✭✭✭zoobizoo


    I'd agree with the poster above.

    In the interim, buy a copy of The Feeling Good Handbook by Dr. Robert Burns.

    It offers practical advice and exercises to help get over those feelings.


  • #4
    stressed70
    Closed Accounts Posts: 52 ✭✭stressed70


    Yes I am still looking for a job. I'm also still on waiting list for counselling.


  • #5
    Ursus Horribilis
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,168 ✭✭✭Ursus Horribilis


    Maybe try that book in the meantime? It's by Dr David Burns, not his poetry writing brother :D There are samples/previews of it if you type the book title into Google ;)


  • #6
    Airyfairy12
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,405 ✭✭✭Airyfairy12


    stressed70 wrote: »
    Yes I am still looking for a job. I'm also still on waiting list for counselling.

    Could you make an appointment yourself with a discount counselor in the meantime while youre on the waiting list? just to tie you over until you're referred to somebody?


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  • #7
    stressed70
    Closed Accounts Posts: 52 ✭✭stressed70


    No unfortuately i can't Airairy12. I must enquire about the process of my referral on Monday. I've been waiting so long & am now considering applying for DA. Thanks for the recommending the book xx


  • #8
    JuliusCaesar
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,885 ✭✭✭JuliusCaesar


    Have you looked into this group? They have an online discussion forum you might find useful if you're not in Dublin and can't attend the group: http://socialanxietyireland.com/


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