Weed is destroying my brothers life

ky91

Hey Guys,

Im am also researching this and talking to his doctor again but I hoping someone might have som advise to help me.

My brother is smoking weed all the time. He has often gone on bouts of locking himself in the shed and smoking until constantly for two weeks then has no more to smoke and turns into a horrible person when he is finished.

Every night he goes into the shed and smoke.Comes in and eats everything watches TV messes up the house and then sometimes goes into his room and smokes more.

He has lost his new job, suffers from anxiety. Refuses to talk to me unless other people are around.

He has starting to steal from us. taking money from different peoples rooms, our things and even this morning i woke up to find my tobacco taken from my room. Just the tobacco the box papers and filters are still together where i left them.

I JUST WANT TO HELP HIM. this isnt him. since he has stated smoking weed it was a gradual change in personality. This isnt my brother and i just want him back

Johnson_76

Hi There,

Having personal experience of this, you are barking up a tree by thinking you can change him. He will only stop if he wants to. Weed is a very addictive drug, mentally.

I suggest for yourself to contact Nar-anon who should be able to help you, as this is very distressing for you and anyone who has to live with your brother.

Most importantly, do not give yourself a hard time for not being able to get through to your bro. He is lost in it, at thee moment, but there is always hope.

Best of luck to you all. I will keep an eye on this thread.

Curry Addict

i would not be so sure weed is the problem. he may smoke weed but this sounds more like heroin addiction.

Curry Addict

weed even in small amounts stinks. check for charred tin foil, blackened spoon, syringes, a modified belt(tourniquet). he could be using weed to cover the smell of heroin

weed is only very mildly psychologically addictive and not physically addictive. it does not lead to stealing or lowering of moral principles. It can accentuate personality disorders.

kylith

I agree that it would be very unusual for someone to steal to support a weed habit. However unless you're going to report him to the Gardai for possession all you can really do is try to make sure that he can't steal from ye by locking bedroom doors, keeping your money on your person, etc.

Mark Tapley

It sounds like your brother might be self medicating with weed. Often people turn to drink or drugs when they are anxious or depressed. This will usually just exacerbate the situation. He needs to confront the underlying issues. Easier said than done I know.

Wanderer78

Time for the professionals but that won't be easy if he has no interest in helping himself. Best of luck

Johnson_76

kylith wrote: »

I agree that it would be very unusual for someone to steal to support a weed habit. However unless you're going to report him to the Gardai for possession all you can really do is try to make sure that he can't steal from ye by locking bedroom doors, keeping your money on your person, etc.

Sorry that is nonsense. Of course someone can steal to feed a weed habit. I know I have in the past.

kylith

Johnson_76 wrote: »

Sorry that is nonsense. Of course someone can steal to feed a weed habit. I know I have in the past.

Then you're unusual. I had a very heavy weed habit for years and I never stole more than a cigarette to put in a joint. During that time the only people I knew who robbed anything more than that were either very young or not just on weed.

Witchie

Mark Tapley wrote: »

It sounds like your brother might be self medicating with weed. Often people turn to drink or drugs when they are anxious or depressed. This will usually just exacerbate the situation. He needs to confront the underlying issues. Easier said than done I know.

This.

My brother was the same. He was bipolar and only found out a few years ago after about 15 years of this crap.

If possible tell your brother that you are worried about him and that you would love to see him less anxious. Suggest a gp visit and hopefully it can go from there.

My heart is breaking for you as I know what you are going through only too well.

Hugs.

LegacyUser

Hi OP, Im sorry to hear this but unless you're brother decides to stop smoking for himself there is very little you can do. Having had two partners who smoked I learned the painful way that there is nothing you can for them. All you can do is explain that you are upset/worried and concerned. Of course support him but be careful, draw boundaries on what is and isn't acceptable. Its down to him at the end of the day to stop, nothing you can say or do will make him stop.

I also disagree with people who say weed isn't addictive... having had two ex partners who smoked, going on holidays was always a horrible experience that I dreaded.

My two cents:
– Weed for medical use, whole heartedly believe it works.
– Weed for the odd one-off smoke, knock yourself out
– Weed on a daily basis, having lived with the implications it has on jobs/money/relationships from being with a stoner. Not unless both people smoke, its can be wholly detrimental.
Cant understand people who can be so flippant about it.
Wish you luck OP.

Johnson_76

kylith wrote: »

Then you're unusual. I had a very heavy weed habit for years and I never stole more than a cigarette to put in a joint. During that time the only people I knew who robbed anything more than that were either very young or not just on weed.

Yerra, that was only half a habit if you used tabacco. Anyway lets agree to disagree and hope the OP gets some help.

topmanamillion

OP I know you want to help your brother but you are only enabling him by tolerating him stealing from you.
He either gets help and allows you to support him or he gets himself out of the house.
You or your family have should not have to put up with being robbed, being on the wrong end of foul moods and cleaning up after he messes up the house.
Many families around the country have had to evict a loved one because of their drug addiction, not because they hate them or anything but simply because they are no longer the person they knew. It seems to me like you are at this point.