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A skeleton in the closet

  • 26-02-2017 10:33am
    #1
    OU812
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,085 ✭✭✭


    I was doing a little update earlier following a distant family passing and discovered someone confirmed some details on my tree.

    I don't know this person, but the details they confirmed would be two generations up, so I suspect they are about my age & possibly a half cousin.

    I had suspected for a long time about a possible "family secret" concerning a grandfather and this seems to confirm a second family. after one of my parents were born, but while he was still married.

    I've picked up on certain things over the years, but nothing has been confirmed. The parent involved absolutely refuses to discuss it. The other parent also will not out of respect for the first's wishes. The grandparents are both dead.

    Other family members don't have the same interest in the family tree & think if it's being ignored it should stay that way.

    I was considering researching these people, trying to find out more & possibly reaching out to them. I have no idea who they are or what they're like or if they even live in Ireland.

    Thoughts?


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  • #2
    pinkypinky
    Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 6,707 Mod ✭✭✭✭pinkypinky


    First off, who is the person who "confirmed some details" on your tree? Ask that person.

    Secondly, have you done some basic searches to see if your grandfather actually had a bigamous marriage or do you think it's an extra marital relationship? Without knowing the woman's name, it will be a challenge to find any children.

    I think DNA is a good possibility. If your grandfather had a second family, then if those people test, they'll be quite close matches.

    Genealogy Forum Mod



  • #3
    OU812
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,085 ✭✭✭OU812


    The person isn't the same surname, but they confirmed a parent-child relationship between the woman's name and her (their) son.

    I'd previously discovered their names quite accidentally through old work pension records. Did a little bit of looking and discovered the relationship. He appears to have had the two of them on the go for a couple of years before he was discovered, kept it going for a couple more than eventually moved in with the second ones.

    Both my parent and his other child were born the same year (the year he left) and my parent only met him twice in his life before he died


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