Nervous about my brothers wedding

GeorgeStobort

My brother who is living is Australia is getting married in a few weeks and the whole family are going over .To be honest this may seem irrational to a lot of people but I am anxious about the whole thing. Its going to be quite a small wedding(40 people) and probably very informal and the whole thing ends at 11pm(Aus weddings differ to Irish). There isn't even a best man however even though he hasn't asked me I get the feeling he wants me to make a speech at the which is something I wouldn't be comfortable with , we are both quite shy people and not very out going and I just want the day over with so I can enjoy the rest of the holiday. I am also quite overweight and very self conscious about how I look so the thought of being dressed up and meeting a lot of strangers isn't something I am looking forward to. Would appreciate some advice

Broken Hearted Road

I have family in Australia. My family here made a similar journey a few years ago to Australia for a function. We loved our time there and it was completely epic.

Nerves are only natural but once you land and sleep off some jet lag you will be grand, no doubt.

My family flew over, met the soon to be sister in law in the airport and stayed with my brother and her. The thought of it was daunting. Talking about throwing us into the deep end. It wasn't a problem at all and she turned out to be such a beautiful lady. The night before the function, there was a barbecue - a social/casual gathering where we met members of her family. All very relaxed.

As for a speech,. I doubt your brother would spring such a thing on you. If you suspect he might, I would suggest to be somewhat prepared. You have a few weeks to put a pen to paper and write something. I doubt it will happen though. If it does, if you are due to land not long before the event you could perhaps use jetlag as an excuse to get out from a speech. Jetlag left your head pounding or something. Just an idea.

As for outfits, you said it yourself, Australia's events are usually low key, relaxed and casual. If it was me, I would be aiming for a smart casual outfit for the wedding day. Maybe some black slacks and a shirt. You could search on online shops like next, debenhams, dunnes, marks and Spencer and other shops for ideas and deviate a whole entire day next weekend at buying an outfit.

I'm overweight myself and I find googling things for example what to wear when over weight and apple shape, and I get loads of ideas as to what may suit me. Pinterest is good too for throwing up ideas too.

I hope that helps you a little.

TENHNY

It's completely normal to feel nervous anxiety at family wedding or family holiday never in both having been threw three family wedding including my own all I felt was nerves on lead up. Our best man had to have few beers before he could work up courage for speach,
Acknowledge to ur self how your feeling and push throught your comfort zone you be so proud after- have a few lines to hand for speech keep simple most of all enjoy