Love or Something Else?

LegacyUser

Im a guy in my late 20s with a problem? (i suppose) Im not sure how to fix. I've been in some sort of a relationship my entire life. I was with one girl for nigh-on 10 years and by the time we broke up, I felt nothing.

Then I swifly found myself with another girl. I didnt think it would develop but it did. We had a brief intense relationship that ended with my getting very upset when we were over. A long-term friend was an abolute God-send throughout that ordeal and I ended up kissing her.

Fast forward a few weeks and we were getting closer, spending time together on dates and eventually sleeping together. It was great. Then, today out of the blue, she say she doesnt feel 'comfortable' and something is 'missing'. So, I find myself dumped again. Im pretty cut up. The irony is that I dont want to be in Ireland long term and had been planning to leave soon anyway but that doesnt fit with the way I'm currently feeling.

The thing I cant figure out is why I've been catching feelings so fast, Is it normal? A fear of being alone? Habit from never having been single? How can I get to a place where im ok with being single? I feel nothing for my long term ex but I'm not handling single life well.

Any advice or insights are very much welcome. Most guys my age are commitment-phobes to the extreme. Why arent I?