Misreaable

No confidence

Hi guys I really just need some were to vent as I'm struggling to talk with people.

So since the new year I've had to shave my head over hairloss and I've just felt terrible since. I've never been OK with it but since I've shaved my head. I'm a young enough guy but this has aged me terribly and I look aweful with a shaved head.

In the last number of years I've struggled to even look in the mirror as I get depressed when I do. I really don't know what to do as I can't afford hair transplant.

I've literally no confidence in myself and it's gotten to the stage wer we I'm not leaving the house except for work. I just can't bare to be around people cause I know of I catch a glimpse of myself I'll just get down and be a pain to everyone around me

Passenger

If it's getting you down this much then you really need to speak to your GP who'll refer you to a psychologist. They'll help you get to the root of your lack of confidence. As for hair transplants, you can get top of the range work done in Turkey for a fraction of the cost here using all the all test methods including FUE. But that's for another day, in the meantime get to your GP asap and tell them what you've said in the OP.

DoctorBoo

My friend lost much of his hair. When he shaved his head, it really did not suit him. He got a partial wig, that sits on top of his head and matches his hair perfectly. It looks so natural. He is delighted with it. You could try that.

Taltos

Talk to your GP about possible treatments either for hair replacement or possibly a referral to someone to help you with your confidence.

I'm similar to you in that I shave my head due to hair loss and from someone who when younger was majorly vain about my hair that is some turn around to suddenly being bald. For me though I've accepted and embraced it and I guess it helps that my OH actively encourages me to shave when I let it slide as she loves the bald look.

I guess it comes down to some choices for you.
A) Try the medical approach with implants or similar, but make sure you research how long they last or even how they look.
Try a wig or toupee
C) Embrace it and enjoy the freedom it gives you. I love getting up in the morning without a bad hair day and just choosing one of my funky beanies if its cold out. Or during the summer my proper hat...
For C you might just need some help to get to that point.

Just make sure you do something one way or another, personally while some days I miss my hair I really have found this very liberating...

LegacyUser

Are you losing your hair because of a medical condition, or normal male pattern baldness?

Either way, I think you need professional counselling if it's having such a profound effect on you. It may be a disappointment, perhaps knock your confidence for a little while, but ultimately you shouldn't be losing perspective to the point where it starts to decide the pattern of your life and define you. Your hair may be only a symptom, both medically and figuratively, of a wider lack of self-worth that needs to be addressed.

silverharp

Not that it might not matter to you but most likely people pay very little attention to it. I honestly cant remember ever seeing a younger guy that was bald looking ridiculous , its kind of a cool look in a way.

No confidence

i can tell you from experience on the amount of jokes people have made at my expense over my hair that it does matter and most people have said something about it to me. granted they don't know how much that this affects me as I usually just change the subject or walk away pretending to laugh with them. Even playful jokes that mean no harm for example my older brother hasn't lost his hair and at Christmas the obvious jokes came along at the family get together but it just killed me tbh

I want to thank everyone for their suggestions ill assure you ive thought of a lot of them. as a shy person ive always struggled to express myself and especially with this I haven't even talked with my family about it.

Taltos

I get in with the jokes before them.
One of my favs is "not my fault I've more testosterone than the rest of you..." and then I walk away or change topic...

Bambi985

You sound like my boyfriend about a year ago when he started shaving his head.

He was getting the ribbing too and was quite insecure about it so decided to shave and be done with it. He was super self-conscious at first, but i actually find him a lot more attractive as a baldy than I ever did before so that's helped him a little :pac:

we saw a photo of us from the early days of dating recently and seeing him with hair was just weird - retrospectively it looks wrong and totally doesn't suit him at all!

Perhaps it's just a look you need to get used to. Google fashion tips for bald men, experiment with different looks. If you were an attractive guy with hair that's very unlikely to be any different now and from what my fella tells me lots of women are into it - he gets hit on a lot more now than he ever did!

It sounds like you struggled with self confidence long before you shaved your head though and you're just projecting all of those insecurities into this one thing now. So that's probably something you should seek help with.

No confidence

I have always been self conscious and having long hair helped me hide away for me. Im not a good looking man at all and the bald head does not help as I don't have the head shape for it.

tbh I don't think ill ever be ok with but I think I needed to say it out loud as keeping it bottled in is not doing me any good. this isn't about how people perceive me ive always accepted im ugly but the bald head for myself when I look in the mirror just makes me feel worse. I know its vain as hell to be this worried but I just don't know how to deal but im trying.

LegacyUser

hi no advice but reading your thread I remembered a bold 50 year-old I used to fancy (a lot!) . I am a twenty-something year old. The boldness can be very attractive if you are confident. It's like glasses. Not everyone likes them, but some do and some find them very-very sexy. Same thing here if ya get me?
Very thin hair is unattractive though, so you did right by shaving it off. I'd say it's sexy, but that may be just me. But then again do you really want everyone to fancy you? It's not that the bold head makes you unattractive. But the lack of confidence is very unattractive. Work on that.