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So sad

  • 03-02-2017 12:01pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Just heard my 1st cousin died. He had been a junkie for years & apparently was liver failure in the end in a hospital. Last I had heard was that he was clean & on a methadone programme.

    Poor kid never had much of a chance. The house he grew up in was horrific. My own family did contact the authorities once but were told unless some specifically abused said something nothing would ever happen.

    He use to hang out at our house a lot when he was probably 8/9 years old. His mum was sober long enough once to try & get him to come & live with us, however he wouldn't as we lived in the countryside & it was boring. After that we just lost touch completely with him.

    I don't remember seeing him at his mum's funeral which was 6 years +/- ago.

    I feel extremely sad. His monster of a dad washed his hands of him years ago I believe. His 2 sisters turned out relatively ok & I knew he stole from them a couple of times to buy, but they did still look out for him. I do feel for them, only in their 30s & have experienced a lot of tragedy.

    My dad & his brother came from the same house with the same parents & how their lives & their kids lives turned out so differently.

    I am very upset by the whole thing.


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  • #2
    Lucuma
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,356 ✭✭✭Lucuma


    Feeling odd I'm sorry that nobody replied to your post. It sounds like such a unique set of circumstances perhaps it's hard for people to relate to it. But of course you feel sad about a cousin you knew as a child turning out to have such a tragic life and ultimately a premature end to his life. What a pity that he didn't come and live with ye when he was 8 or 9, hard to believe he wouldn't have taken the chance to escape the house of horrors. It sounds like he had no chance at all in life with 2 dysfunctional parents. Between contacting the authorities and being willing to take him in it sounds like ye did all ye could have done in the circumstances. You can't help someone who won't help themselves. I'm sure he had moments of happiness and light in his life despite all the bad things, and I'm sure the memories of your house as a child was a cherished memory of stability for him, even though you never got the chance to reminisce about those days with him. Perhaps you can imagine the conversation you would have had with him if you'd had the chance to reflect on those childhood memories with him. I'm very sorry for your loss.


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