Choices on Wedding Menu

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Greenduck

I dont have any choices on my menu. Its four courses (starter,fish,beef and desert) and everyone gets the same! I wouldn't worry about having choices at all to be honest. Plenty of weddings I've been to haven't had one at all.

PS try not to listen to anyone about 'what the done thing is'. Theres no right or wrong with your own day so just go with your gut and own opinion on things.

missmatty

We're the same, our package has a four course set menu but I think we will pay extra for a main course choice. Most weddings I've been at have had a choice for main course but not necessarily for every course. Then we'll probably have the one starter, the soup, and an assiete of desserts to finish.

clint_silver

absolute piffle, you do not NEED a choice, if you feel you want to give them a choice and want to pay extra for that it is entirely up to you but it is not something you have to do.

if youre having 150, 130 will eat everything, some wont have the soup, some will have the vegetarian that they can ask for, good few wont have the dessert.

Noone will go hungry.

mcgiggles

I've been to a rake of weddings the last 3 years (I'm at that age, its like a snowball effect!) and I don't think one of them had a choice on dessert! Some had a choice of 2 starters, some didn't.. most had a choice of mains but I wouldn't bat an eyelid if they didn't! 
Go with what you want, not what everyone thinks is the right thing

jackofalltrades

I can't remember ever being at a wedding where there was a choice for anything other than the main course.
I'm happy as long as there's a main course choice that I like.
I always considered starters and dessert as the optional part of the meal.

bee06

Any wedding I've been at has been choice of starter and main course but usually dessert would be the platter of desserts. I think I've only been to 1 wedding with a choice of desserts.

meeeeh

I've been to weddings that had choice of stater, main and desert. I've been to weddings that had choice of mains and starter and meals that had only choice of mains. I was also to wedding meals with no choice at all and usually the food was far superior at those.

Go with whatever feels right.

SarahMollie

Yeah a lot of times the desert is a trio of whatever, so there should be something for everyone there. I was also at a wedding where they served one desert to the women and one to the men, which was a bit weird and I wouldnt advocate for it.

I can't actually recall if I've ever had a choice of starters, but it wouldn't be a major issue.

Toots

I did choice on starter, main and dessert, but not on the soup - we just had vegetable which we figured most people would eat. We originally only wanted choice of mains and a silent choice on the starter, but the hotel tailored a package for us, so it worked out that we paid the same to have choices on the 3 courses.

I think other than my own, I've only been to one or two other wedding where there was a choice of starter and one was because the groom really wanted this salmon thing (it was raw I think, can't remember the name) but the hotel strongly suggested doing another option because a lot of people wouldn't eat it. Choice of dessert definitely isn't required, and a good way to get around it is to serve the asiette of deserts and that way most people will eat at least one of the little bits on it.

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bee06

Aranza Nice Tobacco wrote: »

Thanks for the suggestions guys. I think we will go with an option for the starter and not desert just because both starters were so nice and we cant decide!

Did you all have soups aswell as starters? We were just going to go starter main desert tea & coffee because any weddings ive been at with soups aswell as starter I never ate desert because I was too full and at the tasting they gave us soup but I only had a small taste it was too much. It seems like most people had both though?

We had soup at mine but I think it was one of the starter options. I can't actually remember. So if I can't even remember at my own wedding then I'd say you shouldn't be worried about what to do for yours ... the guests won't remember in the long run

Sarah1916

I have never had a choice on a starter at a wedding.
I wouldn't worry about giving a soup course. I am generally always stuffed with that extra course. No need for it. if it isn't in your package I wouldn't pay any extra to have it.

byhookorbycrook

I'd go for a mains choice but not a choice on anything else.

Stheno

The last wedding I was at was a five course dinner, no choice on anything but the main.

I ended up just having the main as all of the other four courses were not to my taste.

Jwacqui

We are only having a choice for mains.

We are having Starter - Soup - Main - Dessert - Tea/Coffee

Atomic Pineapple

Jwacqui wrote: »

We are only having a choice for mains.

We are having Starter - Soup - Main - Dessert - Tea/Coffee

This is pretty much the standard at weddings these days, I've been to ALOT of weddings in the last 3 years and this is the norm, one wedding had no choice and the main was Turkey & Ham, some of the weddings only had Soup to start with but every other wedding only offered a choice on the main.

mcgiggles

We are having Starter (2 choices) - soup - main (2 choices) - dessert
The only reason we have choice on the starter is they threw it in for free! Otherwise the only choice would be on mains! and dessert is probably going to be a selection of a few little ones..

ChewChew

We're just having a set soup and starter (although there will be a silent veggie option starter) and a choice of two mains and a silent veggie option there too and a set dessert. I think that's kind of the norm though for a choice with just the mains?

witchgirl26

I've never been to a wedding with an option for starter that was listed. I've a food intolerance so am usually happy to just say no to the starter but a lot of times was asked if I wanted something like melon instead that was a silent option but I wouldn't expect it at all. Also never had a choice for main but similar thing again if it was something I couldn't eat, I was asked if I wanted something else that they had.

If it doesn't cost too much and you want to do it, that's fair enough but I wouldn't be putting too much extra costs on yourselves over it.