Wedding

emmad_xxx

Hi everyone

Myself and fiancé are looking to book our wedding for 2018.
We want something off the beaten track and a bit different.
Ideally we would love a chilled out relaxed day. Don't want something formal, a BBQ with family and friends. I've looked up country houses and it's just way too pricey and out of our budget. They all need a 2 grand deposit. Marquees are just as dear. Is there any hotels or venues I'm missing that will accommodate a budget wedding like this? I'm at my wits end searching the internet and emailing all the venues I come across.
Hope you can help

beertons

What's wrong with paying a 2 grand deposit?

emmad_xxx

beertons wrote: »

What's wrong with paying a 2 grand deposit?

Never said there was anything wrong with it. Just too pricey and out of our budget.

thelawman

How many guests and what is your total budget for the reception, important details to know before any suggestions can be given

emmad_xxx

thelawman wrote: »

How many guests and what is your total budget for the reception, important details to know before any suggestions can be given

Yeah course total budget would be between 3-5 grand and between 80-90 guests. I know I'm probably asking for a lot. I just want a lovely chilled out day on a budget.

emeldc

emmad_xxx wrote: »

Yeah course total budget would be between 3-5 grand and between 80-90 guests. I know I'm probably asking for a lot. I just want a lovely chilled out day on a budget.

........which will probably require a 2K deposit.

L'prof

emmad_xxx wrote: »

Yeah course total budget would be between 3-5 grand and between 80-90 guests. I know I'm probably asking for a lot. I just want a lovely chilled out day on a budget.

I wonder is the problem that most places you've asked generally cater for larger crowds. No idea on cost but because of numbers you quoted Viewmount House in Longford is worth a look. Amazing food and the manor itself is lovely

Another place that sprung to mind was Mount Druid in Castletown Geoghegan. Not for everyone but very cool and very chilled out

These may not even be an option but we got married last year away from where our families are from and where we both lived and it couldn't have gone any better. Best of luck op

Would you consider places like Community halls? There are lots around the country that are a bit outside towns that may suit your needs. You could do them up yourself. Or a country pub. Went to one a few years back where the two families pooled their talents and did the catering themselves - salads, cold meats, salmon, etc with cupcakes for desserts.

AndersLimpar

The Mill House in Slane do BBQ type buffet weddings and it's a fab place. I work as a wedding photographer and have been there a few times and it's fab. The upper end of your budget might go close to working if you didnt get married in high season maybe?

They will require a deposit though, everyone will.

emmad_xxx

L'prof wrote: »

I wonder is the problem that most places you've asked generally cater for larger crowds. No idea on cost but because of numbers you quoted Viewmount House in Longford is worth a look. Amazing food and the manor itself is lovely

Another place that sprung to mind was Mount Druid in Castletown Geoghegan. Not for everyone but very cool and very chilled out

These may not even be an option but we got married last year away from where our families are from and where we both lived and it couldn't have gone any better. Best of luck op

I was looking at mount Druid it's seems gorgeous from the pictures. I've emailed them and all to find out about heir packages. we really want to save money where we can. I want something different. And I feel like I got attacked there for saying I couldn't afford a 2 grand deposit. I completely understand why country houses charge this much. That's why we're not going to consider them because there out of our price range.
I'm fairly new to all this wedding stuff and was shocked by that number when some hotels I've been looking at charge around 700 which is within our budget. I'm definitely into an alternative wedding tho.

emmad_xxx

AndersLimpar wrote: »

The Mill House in Slane do BBQ type buffet weddings and it's a fab place. I work as a wedding photographer and have been there a few times and it's fab. The upper end of your budget might go close to working if you didnt get married in high season maybe?

They will require a deposit though, everyone will.

It's gorgeous there. And definitely something we'd be interested in. I think their deposit is 1500. Not as pricey that's for sure. I know everywhere will require a deposit it's just the amount that's the problem. 700 would be within budget. It's very hard to find a place to suit. I'm definitely thinking outside the box. Hopefully we find somewhere in budget. Thanks for your reply

emmad_xxx

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Would you consider places like Community halls? There are lots around the country that are a bit outside towns that may suit your needs. You could do them up yourself. Or a country pub. Went to one a few years back where the two families pooled their talents and did the catering themselves - salads, cold meats, salmon, etc with cupcakes for desserts.

Yeah I definitely would. Could be a possibility as I plan to make a lot of the stuff myself like invites. So decorating myself wouldn't be a problem. Oh that sounds lovely, we'd be interested in something like that.

DoctorBoo

Fallons in Kilcullen or Palmerstown House in Johnstown

thelawman

great venue http://cliffatlyons.ie

lanomist

You should try some of the GAA or rugby clubs, they usually cater for crowds of that size and often do a buffet dinner. One of the best weddings I was ever at was in my local gaa club.

Hermia

Kippure Estate!

SarahMollie

thelawman wrote: »

great venue http://cliffatlyons.ie

Waaaay over the OP's budget I'd imagine.

Just to clarify OP, is €3-5k the budget for venue, food etc, or the budget for the whole wedding?

Have you considered restaurants?

Robineen

Registry office for €200, my husband and I got a photographer for two hours for €250 for our wedding late last year (and we are really happy with the results), then there are great deals to be had in nice restaurants for set menus. Say nuthin' about it being a wedding. If you don't do want to any of the traditional wedding reception stuff, how would they know? Head to a pub after. I reckon you could swing it for €3500. Be creative and you can pull it off.

leanonme

Not sure if its in your venue but hotel Doolin was cool.

Toots

The thing is with 'alternative' type weddings, they often end up costing more. Particularly if you want an out-of-the-ordinary or exclusive use venue. Whereabouts in the country are you based and would you be able to travel? Also is the 3-5k for the whole thing (ie dress flowers and reception) or just the reception?

lazygal

Toots wrote: »

The thing is with 'alternative' type weddings, they often end up costing more. Particularly if you want an out-of-the-ordinary or exclusive use venue. Whereabouts in the country are you based and would you be able to travel? Also is the 3-5k for the whole thing (ie dress flowers and reception) or just the reception?

So much this. Unless you're willing to really pull in favours all over the place catering for any kind of a big crowd in any venue will cost you more than you think, be it a wedding or anything else.

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Katiefe

You don't say what part of the country you are in but the Slieve Aughty Centre in Galway is lovely and chilled. I think Cloonacauneen Castle offer bbq weddings with a pig on a spit though I have no idea about deposits etc... If your budget is 3-5K all in have you considered having a house party and using caterers etc? Cheap gazebos can provide extra space and are easy to decorate with fairy lights and straw bales.

zoobizoo

There's a pub in Bray that might be right up your street...

It's called the Harbour Bar.

They aren't a wedding venue but they might well be up for something like that (they're into getting publicity). The upstairs which can be hired for parties etc would accommodate that number for the afters... there's a beer garden out front.

They are related to the Ocean/Box Burger/Platform Pizza restaurants in Bray (and five minutes walk away) who could probably do you a special lunch rate if you were out of there before the evening sittings.

If you're looking for alternative, this could be for you

Ghosty669

Robineen wrote: »

Registry office for €200, my husband and I got a photographer for two hours for €250 for our wedding late last year (and we are really happy with the results), then there are great deals to be had in nice restaurants for set menus. Say nuthin' about it being a wedding. If you don't do want to any of the traditional wedding reception stuff, how would they know? Head to a pub after. I reckon you could swing it for €3500. Be creative and you can pull it off.

Would you mind PM'ing me the name of the photographer you used?

ciarak7511

Sounds like a lot of the venues mentioned would be well out of your budget, including mount druid. Don't even look at at millhouse or cliff at lyons unless you want to go way over. Cliff at lyons was a stupid suggestion for someone on a budget of 5 grand with those numbers. I want 100 at mine and i calculated it at around 17K for cliff at lyons which is crazy money. that doesn't include band or dj.

low budget low key options include:

1. Kippure estate ( 2k approx)
2. Killyion manor ( 6k to hire) loughcrew house and gardens ( 8K)-these prices are before food
3. Anglers rest ( 5-8 k depending numbers)
4. Look at restaurants that might cater for your numbers-beaufield mews etc.
5 Killruddery house and gardens prob just a bit more expensive than your budget
6. look up airbnb-there are a number of house you can rent but they may require marquee.
7. look at hotels-some hotels have good package deals-might not be good for your bbq idea but some of them may be open to it

july and august are the most expensive months, outside these months there is room for haggling. Also saturdays are most expensive.

Northern Ireland is cheaper but i dont know if they do late bar licenses,

DaeryssaOne

I very much doubt the OP is still deciding on this more than 6 months later ciarak!

ciarak7511

Was it not 2018 she was planning for? i still haven't found a place for mine yet and I've been engaged since January and since this thread still shows up when you put in 'wedding' in the search bar why not try and be helpful to people?

Bacchus

ciarak7511 wrote: »

Was it not 2018 she was planning for? i still haven't found a place for mine yet and I've been engaged since January and since this thread still shows up when you put in 'wedding' in the search bar why not try and be helpful to people?

OP hasn't been on boards since January. But yeah nice to be nice and you gave good info

You having trouble yourself finding a venue? You sound like you've done a decent bit of research.

ciarak7511

ha well im sittin at home with a broken ankle so have little else to be doing!!

I found it hard at first to find any good value venues in Ireland so thought id share some of my research!

ill have to go look at a few of them when am back on my feet!

julyjane

I know a couple who got married in a church and just had the reception back at their house. Small council house in a small estate but maybe they have a decent sized back garden? We couldn't go because it was too short notice to get time off work but those that did go said it was a great wedding. One said it was "the best wedding I was ever at"

Now logistically I don't think I'd consider it myself, and I'd hate to be depending on Irish weather but if you really want to get married and the budget is tight.

getyourgun

lanomist wrote: »

You should try some of the GAA or rugby clubs, they usually cater for crowds of that size and often do a buffet dinner. One of the best weddings I was ever at was in my local gaa club.

great idea