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Alcohol makes me feel normal

  • 10-01-2017 12:34am
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    I don't know how to word this but I'm not an alcoholic, alcohol makes me feel normal. When I drink I enjoy life and feel I can be myself. I'm a 20 year old female. I'm an extremely anxious person, a worrier in general. I can't even hand a CV in without feeling so nervous I'm shaking.

    But yet when I have a few drinks I'm so carefree, don't care what anyone thinks. I feel so happy and different. I don't know why I can't be like this all the time. I'm not sure if I have an anxiety disorder or not but the thought of going to a doctor and saying this freaks me out. I don't think I would be able to do it. No one knows this. I couldn't tell anyone. Even if I was to get a job involving interaction with the public I'd be an anxious wreck the whole time.

    Is this just normal shyness?


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  • #3
    Rubberchikken
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    go to your gp and discuss the anxiety. there are better ways of dealing with it than on your own or with alcohol.
    yes alcohol will probably push away the anxiety for a while, but it's a slippery slope to go down.

    you're doing great to recognise that there is an issue with the anxiety and dealing with it now with help is the way to go. best of luck


  • #4
    LynnGrace
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    Definitely do speak with your GP. They are well used to hearing things like this, and will be able to recommend ways to deal with it. Counselling / psychotherapy might well help, if it is an anxiety disorder.

    All the best.


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    [Deleted User]
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    Alcohol is a drug. You are self-medicating. Please speak to your GP, there's other help you can get to find that middle ground the other poster so accurately outlined.


  • #6
    fizzypish
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    I think the GP suggestion is the best choice. No one likes to hear they may need to take Counselling / psychotherapy. Its a **** sandwich but better to chow down now than later when the booze has added to your woes.


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  • #7
    Quentin12
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    If you're afraid of going to a doctor, perhaps it would help to rehearse the encounter; if you don't have a GP, perhaps you could just find a GP and go for a general check-up to see what they're like and if they're someone you'd feel comfortable discussing the anxiety with.


  • #8
    Veronica Thousands Hallway
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    Anonymous456789 wrote: »
    I don't know how to word this but I'm not an alcoholic, alcohol makes me feel normal. When I drink I enjoy life and feel I can be myself. I'm a 20 year old female. I'm an extremely anxious person, a worrier in general. I can't even hand a CV in without feeling so nervous I'm shaking.

    But yet when I have a few drinks I'm so carefree, don't care what anyone thinks. I feel so happy and different. I don't know why I can't be like this all the time. I'm not sure if I have an anxiety disorder or not but the thought of going to a doctor and saying this freaks me out. I don't think I would be able to do it. No one knows this. I couldn't tell anyone. Even if I was to get a job involving interaction with the public I'd be an anxious wreck the whole time.

    Is this just normal shyness?

    If you go to the doctor they can prescribe you meds like beta blockers which will help you, although it sounds like therapy would be a better option or at least used in conjunction.


  • #9
    DavyD_83
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    Deleted User wrote: »
    Alcohol is a drug. You are self-medicating. Please speak to your GP, there's other help you can get to find that middle ground the other poster so accurately outlined.

    Agree completely with the above.
    And without being silly, if you do get job you're not going to be able to sneak beers to keep the anxiety at bay. The GP will hopefully be able to give you something to get you to a more stable and level middle ground as said.

    Also, I really think we need to review what we think of as alcohol dependency. Juts because we are not dependent on it at all times, doesn't mean we are not dependent.
    Speaking from my own experience; although I don't think I am or was "an Alcoholic", I have definitely been dependent on alcohol in certain (broad) scenarios, and in periods of my life (a couple of years) as a way of coping with stress/anxiety/grief/depression.

    Good luck getting to grips with it OP. Talking to somebody, even on the internet, about it is a good first step to even evaluating a little better it in your own mind.


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