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Obsessed with friend

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  • 02-01-2017 5:42pm
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    I'm in my early twenties and I'm obsessed with my male friend. I'm male and would consider myself as straight as I am only attracted to girls. I'm going through a real dry patch (over a year) at the moment and my confidence is rock bottom.

    However, this one friend who is my closest friend, I'm attracted to. I can't see myself cutting him out of my life as I really enjoy his company and friendship and don't want to that to end. However, I am obsessed with him from a sexual point of view. Sometimes I get very horny and if I don't relieve myself I just keep thinking about him. Then once I do finally relieve myself I am instantly disgusted by my thoughts and go back to him being a friend only and not being attracted to him. It has been like this for years but seems to be getting worse. I've noticed when I masturbate now I really struggle to cum unless I'm thinking of him. I get turned on by thinking of girls/porn and will eventually cum without thinking of him but he keeps popping into my head.

    I just have no idea what to do. If I could take a pill to remove all sexual desires in the morning I would.


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    justconfused wrote: »
    I'm in my early twenties and I'm obsessed with my male friend. I'm male and would consider myself as straight as I am only attracted to girls. I'm going through a real dry patch (over a year) at the moment and my confidence is rock bottom.

    However, this one friend who is my closest friend, I'm attracted to. I can't see myself cutting him out of my life as I really enjoy his company and friendship and don't want to that to end. However, I am obsessed with him from a sexual point of view. Sometimes I get very horny and if I don't relieve myself I just keep thinking about him. Then once I do finally relieve myself I am instantly disgusted by my thoughts and go back to him being a friend only and not being attracted to him. It has been like this for years but seems to be getting worse. I've noticed when I masturbate now I really struggle to cum unless I'm thinking of him. I get turned on by thinking of girls/porn and will eventually cum without thinking of him but he keeps popping into my head.

    I just have no idea what to do. If I could take a pill to remove all sexual desires in the morning I would.


    hey,
    just reading your post, I feel for you...
    you need to come to terms with your attraction to your friend and understand that you do not need to label yourself, we are naturally attracted to who we are attracted to and that is human life, it does not make you gay, but you don't need to label yourself or be concerned about it, just accept that you are attracted to him. you really need to look in to yourself and ask is this something you want to persue or is this pure fantasy...if you actually were to tell this to your friend and he accepted this, would you still feel the same? if the feeling was mutual would this be something you would want? and then, of course, you need to think of is there a possibility your friend could never accept this and could you risk losing him?
    I think you need to do a lot of soul searching, only you hold the answers to this but you also need to work on accepting this, the more you think of it negatively it could make you distance yourself from him, you need to focus on accepting yourself and your attraction and look beyond labels


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