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  • 22-12-2016 9:52am
    #1
    Marle Meza
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 38 ✭


    This has upset me.
    Over the past while, I had been through a roller-coaster of ill health. This month however, I have come back to lack of sleep and been fatigued a lot and sleeping odd hours and only getting sometimes 2 hours sleep. Drained. My sleep pattern is all over the place.

    I was in the process of making an arrangement to meet with a friend whom i had not seen in a year. My best friend wanted to come along and I said yes.
    We also arranged to go out to a night club that night.

    After much thinking, I asked my best friend if we could change the date of going to the nightclub as I didn't think my energy levels would be good, as might be on auto pilot that day as it would be a full on day.

    Her voice changed and she put the phone down abruptly. Since then she has pulled out of meeting with my other friend, and now I have just spoken on the phone with her, saying that she was upset I had pulled out of going to the nightclub and that I had choose d the friend over her and choose d to spend my energy with her.

    She compared me with another friend who pulled out of a similar event but said that she completely understood that. She can't do that for me! Seemingly! She got quite negative with me despite the fact that the dates were changed and we're going out another night after xmas.

    I am very upset. I was going to cancel meeting with this other friend, but she said no, to go ahead and meet her. Just shes annoyed that I choosed to spend my energy with this other friend we both know.

    I don't know what I have done wrong except change the dates and not left it as it was. Things happen and such, but I have no idea what to do now.

    I feel Christmas has lost its sparkle now.


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  • #2
    Loveinapril
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,348 ✭✭✭Loveinapril


    Marle Meza wrote: »

    I feel Christmas has lost its sparkle now.

    That's a bit dramatic. Your friend is being immature. You planned to see your other friend first, all the other stuff (other friend coming and nightclub) was all added onto your plans by this other friend. Just do what you want, its your life!


  • #3
    Big Bag of Chips
    Administrators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 14,909 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭Big Bag of Chips


    Is your best friend usually demanding of your time? Does she expect you to always be available to her. It sounds like she was/is/could be jealous of your friendship with the other friend. Is she particularly friendly with the other girl? The more you pander to her to more she will feel she has a right to be annoyed at you. She probably accepted the other friend changing plans because the other friend wouldn't entertain her sulking.

    You're adults. Sometimes plans change. Yes, people can be disappointed, but adults shouldn't go sulking with "you like her better than me" type strops. Don't pander to her. You've made alternative arrangements, that should be that.


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