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Consistently distracted by boys

  • 13-12-2016 6:59pm
    #1
    QueenOfWexico
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 178 ✭✭


    I'm a 21 year old with a good bit going for me - in my last year of college, good hobbies and interests, great friends, decent social life. I was in a long term relationship up until 6 months ago. It was a bit on and off so I've had experience as a singleton but this is the first long stretch in a while where I've been fully by myself, and don't intend going back to that boyfriend ever.

    I was very upset over the break up but started feeling more myself about 3 months after. Around that time I met another guy who I really fell for. We saw each other for about two months and I was smitten - but things started to fizzle out with me being too busy in college and him always working on weekends. Again, I was just getting over that demise in the last few weeks when I got with a guy I used to work with, who I'd always secretly fancied. Haven't heard anything from him since but I keep thinking over and over that I'd love to. I know he probably won't contact me as between college/work stuff he won't be back in my area until May.

    My point here is, I always seem to be thinking about lads I've been with and if we could go somewhere and if I'd want it to. Don't get me wrong, I don't throw myself at everybody and only go for people I genuinely fancy. It just always seems like as soon as I'm forgetting one boy, another comes along, I get excited and the same thing happens again. I'm starting to get worried that I'm basing a lot of my happiness and self-worth on meeting people, when I have plenty of other things to think about and be happy about. Could it be that I'm going through a teenager-y being-obsessed-with-boys phase a bit later in my life? I really want to be one of those cool, chilled independent gals who goes with the flow and takes men as they come.


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  • #2
    Loveinapril
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,348 ✭✭✭Loveinapril


    Personally I feel like that phase is something most people go through before becoming more settled in being able to pay everything equal amounts of attention. You mentioned your self worth. To me, your post sounds like you have a very healthy idea of what is important and what is less important. You began by detailing all of who you are. Just hold onto that. Boys are lovely but make sure you continue to focus on other things. Your longterm relationship obviously prohibited you from just kissing random boys. I went through something very similar when I was your age and had a very fun year before meeting my husband! Just make sure you mind yourself and don't become too engrossed in a boy too soon.


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